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Is dating someone with a racist family a bad idea? Am I being unreasonable to reject him because of this?

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FeelingGuilty151 · 15/09/2022 21:43

I have a male friend who I used to be friend’s with benefits with and I used to really fancy him for a few years when I was younger. Recently he expressed interest in me and said he was open to dating, he asked me out quite a few times and I was very reluctant told him I wasn’t ready, wasn’t sure if I wanted anything like that after my ex and told him I wasn’t keen on the idea of racist in laws and if I were to have a child with him, I wouldn’t want them to be affected

His brother is outrageously racist, uses the P word, says he isn’t sure he’d attend his brother’s wedding if it was in a mosque/his parents and his brother asked him why he can’t just date a nice white British girl who would be a “proper wife” and that they’d leave England for France and cut contact with my friend if he dated someone who isn’t white British and had a brown baby

Am I being unreasonable not to want to be a part of that as similar experiences have fucked me up?

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LiftyLift · 15/09/2022 21:46

Don’t touch that family, it will only get worse.

Luredbyapomegranate · 15/09/2022 21:46

You know yourself best

Having a partner with a racist family is a big thing to deal with. You don’t even sound that interested in him, so I am not surprised you don’t want to take this on.

Sandra1984 · 15/09/2022 21:48

Is your name Meghan by any chance? 🤣

billy1966 · 15/09/2022 21:51

Yes, it is a really BAD idea.

Don't go near them.

MistyGreenAndBlue · 15/09/2022 21:51

I wouldn't want to be attached to this family and I'm white.
Run away.

Daisy03 · 15/09/2022 21:54

Only if he's going to go NC

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