DH being OTT?

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I'm going away tomorrow with some friends for two nights, only a couple of hours away.

Anyway, put DC to bed about 7:30ish and had a bath, admittedly I do like the occasional long bath because I like to relax, shave my legs, just chill out for a little bit before getting in my PJs.

I went downstairs from said bath at 8:30 and DH in a strop because it's our last night together (I'm away for 2 nights not 2 weeks!) And I wasted an hour in the bath rather than spending it with him and now it's far too late to watch anything apparently and chill out together.

Bearing in mind every other night we stay up until gone 10pm watching TV / chatting I have no idea why 8:30 is apparently now too late to watch or do anything but apparently he's tired so wanted an early night (didn't say that to me before). He called me ignorant..?

Surely he's being stupid? Or would you be upset that your partner spent an hour in a bath the night before they went away for 2 nights?

I'm now in the spare room chilling out by myself because I refused to sit there whilst he was being ridiculous.

He’s being very melodramatic, 8.30 isn’t late at all - is he always like this if you’re going away?

I’d be asking what’s really upsetting him because that it’s a huge overreaction. YANBU

Is he being a twat because you are going away and wants to make you feel bad and not in a fun mood for 2 days?

will you let him?

He doesn't seem to want you to go, for some reason. Let him get on with it and stay up late on your own.

He's in a strop about you going away.
He wants attention, you didn't give him the type he wanted, now hes making you feel like the bad guy thus making you think about him more and maybe not have such a good time forgetting about him. Hes being a child basically.

Ignore him. Let him go to bed in a strop. Dont run after him, carry on relaxing.

He's being a bit weird.

He's all upset because he's having to do some parenting while you go and have fun, and he was expecting you to be fauning all over him in gratitude tonight, and most likely when you get back. He was expecting 100 percent attention and he is sulking like a child.

This.

Causing a row so as to spoil your break.

Do you do this often?

Because his actions are what what you get from selfish nasty men who cannot bear their victims being away from them.

I'm not suggesting you are his victim but his behaviour is awful and not that of a mature, grown up, decent, man.

It's the behaviour to be expected from an asshole.

I wouldn't tolerate it, accommodate nor facilitate it.

It would make me look at him closely and his general behaviour.

Is he stroppy because he actually has to look after his children?

If so, he is a waster.

He’s trying to upset you so you don’t trip off carefree on the sunset I.e. the two days away.

It’s a way for him to occupy your thoughts while you are away. Please don’t give him any headroom, park this for a future discussion on your return

He's punishing you for going away. My ex husband used to try this. I just ignored him and went anyway