To wish I was ten years younger…

[Ifonlyiwastenyearsyounger]

I don’t want this for vanity reasons..I don’t really care that I’m starting to see signs of ageing etc…I just really want another baby and if I was ten years younger, this could possibly be achieved.
I’m 44 and have a 4 year old, finally conceived with ivf after years of struggles and losses.
I’m so so grateful for Dd but feel sad for only being able to do this once and I know I should be content as I never thought I’d be blessed enough to have Dd.
I have a frozen embryo left but feel I’m probably too old now.
If I was ten years younger I’d have a couple more if I could.

You have one embryo left. Go for it! You have nothing to lose and it's not necessarily too late. My great grandmother had her last at 50. Not IVF, obviously, but still. There's a chance and you should take it.

I had my first at prematurely at 24 then had 10 years of multiple late miscarriages, premature birth, death and heartache.

Age doesn’t guarantee anything.

One embryo left, go for it!!!

I had my second just shy of 43 and don't regret it for a minute. He's almost a teen now and I don't really feel particularly "old".

Go for it!

You might as well give that last embryo a chance! Go for it.

At 44 I'd go for it!

You might live till 100! Some of us don’t make 50 or even younger than that. None of us know what’s round the corner, live in the “now”. If you feel capable, go for it! Use that embryo.

I'm a similar age. I absolutely would go for it.

At your age I wouldn’t hesitate to give it another go.

Dont we all. Only you can decide what you have the energy for. Cherish and embrace what you do have, gratitude is life affirming outlook.

I’m sat crying as I really did think it was too late, I’d be 45 when the dc was born (if it was even to work) is that not too old 🤷🏻‍♀️I mean, I don’t *Feel old, om
knackered yeah, but mum friends in their thirties are too

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I spoke to a women at a play group today she had her second child late forties. I've just had a baby natural at 42 no issues. I have two friends who had babies at 44.

Out of my son's friends in the youngest mum - at 40. I had him at 36 and my daughter at 39. I thought this was ancient. The other mums were 42, 44 and 46 when they had their firsts!

Obviously, there are to guarantees and you will already know how stressful ivf is. But if you have one embryo and can deal with the uncertainty then go for it. Better the devil you know.

1. Old for you to be seen at the school run?

1. Old for your own health and ability?

1. Old for risk of issues with baby?

Decide what your main worry/ worries are and take it from there.

As for 1 I don't feel like I stand out at all as an older mum.

No 2 my youngest is 1 year old and my eldest is 17!! I manage fine I don't have the same energy but I manage fine, certainly have a lot more patience and time. I would absolutely have another as I too feel youngest is like a single child whereas my older two were so close in age they were like twins and always had each other.

As for 3 I was tested for everything and anything and was convinced something would be wrong as age etc got mentioned a lot. My baby is perfectly fine and meeting milestones.

You are not too old. I think you would very deeply regret not trying with your last embryo.

My friend who is 44 is actively trying now. She has a 4 year old and 8 year old and desperately wants another. Go for it!

Go for it!

But another option, just to put it out here, did you think of adoption?

I think I’d go for it. I’ve just had a surprise second baby at 38, I still don’t feel “done” but then I’m also single so the cards are out of my hands on that front! I say in my mind and heart if opportunities present themselves to have another 45 would be my cut off point.

you have the embro, I almost see it as why on Earth aren’t you giving that a chance?! Especially feeling this way.

if you decide to go for it you have to update the forum!