To say recovered smokers are way more judgemental than non-smokers

[lailamaria]

I just find it hypocritical, if you've smoked in the past i don't think you get too act holier than thou to people who still choose to smoke, i don't smoke i have a lung condition however my sister and best friend do, my dad is a recovered smoker and everytime my best friend leaves the house to smoke outside he always makes a snide comment and it's not just him either.

My best friend has never left in the middle of a meal to go have a smoke, my dad used to all the time, i'm happy he's healthier now but the judgment just makes us all annoyed.

I know this is a pretty boring aibu but i wondered if it was just me

For sure. I am as judgy as hell.

@PersonIrresponsible you said "I think it depends on how a person reacts to the smell after they quit. Some people bodily respond with revulsion.
Me? I lurve the smell so much that I'm practically a street pervert lurking on your shoulder.
I try not to go out much."

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I'm with you on this one.
I've not smoked for 25 years but even now the smell of a freshly lit cigarette makes me go " ahhhhhhhhmmmm"

I used to smoke but quit for good 10 years ago (bar one toke on a night out 7 years ago which nearly made me retch). I used to love the smell when I was a smoker, I now hate it. I especially hate seeing fag butts on the ground. I hate being around second hand smoke. I sometimes have recurring nightmares where I'm smoking a cigarette. I NEVER thought I'd be like this.
I don't judge smokers, that would be totally hypocritical. I don't feel smug about it either, that would also be hypocritical when I still have so many other bad habits I struggle with. It's just easy to forget what it was like and how hard it was.

No I am an ex smoker and do not judge. I remember how cripplingly addictive it is and how hard to do without. Is it a horrible habit which wastes your time and money? Yes. Do I think you should stop? Yes. Is it right for me to judge you. No. Presumably you are an adult. I do fetch cigs for my friend when she asks and feel like an enabler but never say anything.

I’m an ex-smoker 20 years now. I dislike the smell of smoke. I don’t judge but really don’t know anyone who smokes. You might see it outside a pub but never see parents smoking at school gates or in the park the way you used to. I remember my dc asking me about 8 what someone was doing as he’d never seen anyone with a cigarette before.

I'm an ex smoker and make no judgement on others that smoke.

I've never smoked and am extremely judgemental but you'd never ever know it in conversation. Tbh because I used to work in a head and neck cancer team I know nobody would ever be harder on a smoker than they are on themselves, and I feel nothing but sympathy for people dealing with their worst nightmare. My main judginess is reserved for the tobacco companies now busy flogging their shit to countries with looser regulation.