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Pocket money and spending for your DCs? What do you do?

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sparklins · 15/09/2022 18:13

DS is 8 and we are starting to discuss pocket money and spending.
Currently also looking into a child account/card with parental controls as currently DS seems to think the money on the screen is a magical entity that is always there 😂

Me and DP would like a bit of advice from the wise collective of mumsnet to figure out how we are going to work it so would love to ask a few questions and get some insight if that's ok?

  • how much pocket money do your DC/s get or got at different ages
  • what are the general rules about spending their own money
  • what are the rules about any monetary gifts £10 and over from family members (DCs have a couple of DGMs who like to gift 10-20 each from time to time)
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Am I being unreasonable?

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You are being unreasonable
You are NOT being unreasonable
sparklins · 16/09/2022 17:57

hopeful bump for the friday night crew!

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APurpleSquirrel · 16/09/2022 18:05

We've just started giving DD (8) pocket money - £1 a week. She is free to spend it or save it on whatever she wants (nothing illegal obviously).
Previously we've always put any birthday or Christmas money into her bank account (we have access to it, she does not).
Her birthday was earlier this month, & atm she has kept all the money in her purse.
She has talked about buying herself a new backpack which I'm happy for her to use her birthday money on. The rest of it, I will probably have a conversation with her about possibly putting some of it away in her account especially as Christmas is coming up.

Spiritqueen1111 · 16/09/2022 18:15

I have a 15 and 11yr old, I give them £5 a week into their own bank accounts (I have main access to them) and they are able to spend that on what they like. I would like them to save it to buy something for themselves but they don't ask for much and the little they do ask for they get it on bdays and Xmas. They usually spend it on their games or at the shop on food treats.
I do say to them they have to help me around the house for that money but they have started walking to and from school themselves so saves me spending so much on petrol and getting stuck in the school run so I'll accept that

Michiru · 16/09/2022 18:15

Usually £5/w at that age. This covers general niceness and chores, too, with the argument that employers would pay them if they were fine and did what they needed to, but could deduct money (sack them) if something was amiss.

Birthday money etc. is divided evenly between a savings account and their pocket money, so they can buy something bigger, but can't spend it all at once.

No rules on what they spend it on, but we do occasionally have discussions about the point of owning 10 of one item.

MsChatterbox · 16/09/2022 18:25

My 4 year old gets £1 a week. So far he's saved for 10 weeks to buy a flash toy and is now over half way through saving for some dinosaur eggs he has to dig. I've told him he can either save it for things like that or spend it on sweets etc in the shop each week. He chose saving! I think 8 year old would need a bit more each week but I guess that depends on your budget.

dancebob1980 · 16/09/2022 18:26

Just popping in to recommend hyperjar as a way of getting a free Mastercard for kids that you can easily transfer money on to. Look up the app.

Mine (8 & 11) love theirs, and it really makes them pay attention to how much they have and how much things are.

They even went food shopping on their own, and I could quickly transfer money when they called from the till to say they were £3 short!

I confess we haven't really got on top of the amounts we give them. They get £5 a month from grandparents, with the chance to earn extra from us.

We can put birthday money on to the card. I let them buy what they want, but do try to point out when I think they should buy something else, if it is not worth the money or they want their 637th cuddly toy, etc.

Sunnyqueen · 16/09/2022 18:30

Mine get a tenner each a week but is deducted if there is any bad behaviour but that doesnt happen too often thankfully! I keep meaning to get one of those gohenry cards for my eldest but not got round to it yet. My friends recommended it to me.

broodybadger · 16/09/2022 18:37

Mine have base pocket money and then can earn more for doing larger jobs in the house that save me money.

DD10 and DS 11 get £5 a week base and can earn a lot more for doing non standard chores

Washing a car (we have 2) - £5
Cleaning the windows - £5
Full downstairs clean - £5
Full upstairs clean - £5
Mowing the lawn - £3

They can choose what, if any they want to do the week before so it's fair between them.

The younger ones (under 5) don't get pocket money.

maybein2022 · 16/09/2022 18:40

Mine (9 and 13) have go Henry cards but my older one (13) has said it’s too babyish now, so will get her a proper debit card too.

They get pocket money and can spend it on whatever they want, I don’t interfere. It comes with no conditions though, because my (very personal) view is they should be helping around the house as part of our family team- NOT for financial motivation- although I know some people have very successful systems for jobs = pocket money.

My younger one tends to save his up and then buy bigger items like a video game.

If they get given money it’s up to them if it goes in their Go Henry or a savings account but obviously if it was a lot I’d say some needed to be saved- but generally it’s not a lot.

Greydogs123 · 16/09/2022 18:42

MY daughter gets a pound per year, so at 9 she is getting £2.25 a week. She’s amazing at saving for stuff she wants outside of Christmas and birthday. She has a savings account that she doesn’t really know about at the moment which we save a bit each month in for when she is older.
Tried to get a hyper jar account, but for some reason it didn’t accept any of my proof of identity, so we continue the old fashioned way of money in a piggy bank. If she wants to buy something online then she just gives me the cash.

LunaLoveFood · 16/09/2022 18:45

We have a rooster card (which has now been taken over by natwest) which is linked to chores. Ds8 almost 9 gets £5 per week and has been able to save up for roller skates and lego sets that he has wanted and it works really well for us.

TheHopefulMum · 16/09/2022 18:51

Our two DC's aged 9 and 7 have GoHenry cards. If they are helpful around the house, basic things like picking up after themselves etc and their behaviour is good they get £5 a week on this for whatever they want. They mainly save it and will go to the shop every once in a while.

They both also have normal savings accounts and any birthday or Christmas money gets put in here. That's not to say they can't spend it if they want to, however 9/10 they never want to as they have everything they need and want.

skyeisthelimit · 16/09/2022 18:53

DD is 14 now so has a proper junior bank account, but she also has a Revolut Junior card linked to my Revolut card. There can be a £5 charge for the card but I got it free on a promotion. There are no further charges as I won't pay for one of those where they charge you to save your own money.

DD gets £5 a week into her bank account to spend on whatever she wants, and her mobile phone SIM at £10 a month. If she goes shopping with friends I will give her enough money for the bus and food, and also extra money to buy clothes with.

When she was younger I saved every penny she was given but now she is older, she is allowed to spend her Christmas and Birthday money on whatever she wants. My view is that is was given in lieu of a present and therefore for her to buy her own present and it's not for me to insist that she saves it.

@Greydogs123 I just read that as "MY daughter gets a pound per year" literally, and though wow that's tight Grin grin] before I read on and understood what you meant grin]

Mumofsend · 16/09/2022 19:01

My 6 and 8 year olds get £3 base a week, which is split 50:50 into saving and spends. They can earn an extra 20p a day for helping me with a job each. I use rooster.

DisneyMillie · 16/09/2022 19:07

My 12 year old DD gets £3 a week pocket money on her Go Henry card but can earn more through chores - £0.50 for emptying recycling / emptying dishwasher etc. She doesn’t do much though so it’s rarely over £5 a week.

She can spend on whatever she wants - mostly seems to be face masks and Superdrug stuff!

We buy anything necessary but no longer will buy magazines / phone data etc - she has to fund that.

PaddleBoardingMomma · 16/09/2022 19:21

We have go Henry, 6 year old gets £15 a week and chooses to spend or save depending on what it is she has her eye on or where she wants to go.

Squashedmoomy · 16/09/2022 19:46

I have been very impressed with Gohenry,as it shows you exactly how much money was spent and where,almost immediately.There are lots of money missions to help children learn all about different aspects of money.You can set spending limits,set savings goals,limit weekly spending.etc.It really is a good product,and a lot more than just a prepaid debit card.
If anyone wants to give it a try,we both get £20 into our childs' accounts as a bonus,if you join with the following link.
I joined up through someone else's link on here,and my son has kept using the card,and had his pocket money automatically transferred from my parent account each Sunday.

Squashedmoomy · 16/09/2022 19:48

You can adjust how much pocket money they get instantly,eg earn 50p for tidying room,cleaning the car etc etc.It is a really good app/card to learn basic money skills.

Mumspair1 · 16/09/2022 19:59

My 6yo gets 20 a month, but there's deductions for bad behavior which works quite well.

Kittycorn · 16/09/2022 20:17

We do £10 every half term. We tried doing weekly but never had any change! No caveats from us... they can spend it how they like.

DD8 tends to buy 'bigger' items that she really wants.
DS5 tends to buy lots of smaller things as he is keen to spend a little bit and to always have some left!

ChocolateCakeYum · 16/09/2022 20:54

DS is 8 and gets £10 a month.

ellieboolou · 16/09/2022 21:29

10yo gets £3 per week as I tend to buy quite a few treats, when she starts secondary she'll get £20-25 per month plus I'll pay her lunches for school.

7yo doesn't get pocket money as such, I'll say I'll give you £1 for tidying up but she's not fussed.

We have a coin pot so any change goes in there and they'll share it for a monthly treat, usually around £10-15 a month between them.

MonkeyPuddle · 16/09/2022 21:35

DC is 5yo.
he gets £1 a week on the proviso he makes his bed and tucks his school shirts in with minimal winging every day.
He gets 20p per every good behaviour point at school, usually 60p.
He gets 20p for each exceptional behaviour he demonstrates. This week he earned 40p because he sat through his eye test like a Big Boy. 20p per eye.
I look after his pocket money, he can choose to spent it on sweets or save it, he choice is one and not the other. Currently he is saving his money, he is up to

cheshiremom · 16/09/2022 21:38

My son gets half his age weekly and this has worked well so far and feels age appropriate at the moment (he is 6)

Ecclescaker · 17/09/2022 08:41

My 11 year old has a Gohenry card which has been great.I automatically transfer £5 to her account every Sunday,plus she has a chores list which she can tick off eg tidy room,clean out hamster,for which she can earn an extra 20p,50p.I like the way that it encourages the idea of working for money and responsibilities as well as all the advantages of a debit card with adult controls.

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