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Husband and his Vape
alittlequinnie · 15/09/2022 15:56
My DH and I were smokers on and off for years. We gave up for about 7 years and then began to smoke cigars instead!
About 8 years ago we both agreed that we would give up completely again. We used a weekend away as a starting point as it's always easier to give up smoking when you've changed your routine etc.
I've never smoked anything since and DH has not smoked anything but took up vaping about a YEAR after he gave up smoking cigars.
He has vaped constantly in the house - all over the house - and the car - he honestly HONESTLY puts that fucking thing in his gob and has a suck at LEAST every five minutes. He does it at work, on the way to work, on the way home from work and at every given opportunity.
The ONLY time he doesn't have it with him is once a week when he does the food shopping (but he goes without me anyway).
I fucking hate it - I hate the smell of it - I hate the look of it when he's doing it - I hate the clouds of smoke and the fact that he does it in front of our grandchildren.
He's got absolutely NO intention of giving up whatsoever and has only agreed to not do it in a couple of areas of the house.
He thinks it smells "lovely" and that everyone at work says "I love coming into your room it always smells so nice".
To me it smells chemically and really chloying.
We've just had yet another row about it because his attitude is that he just won't give it up or cut down or anything.
I don't understand it - when he was smoking cigars he would go down to the garage once an evening and smoke one..... but this thing is just so habit forming he can't stop.
What can I do short of leaving him? How can I stop the smell everywhere - I swear to god it permeates the furniture like cigarette smoke does too...
... and there's also the lack of knoweldge around it - he swears blind it is "harmless" but how does he know this?!
Am I being unreasonable?
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Laurie01 · 15/09/2022 16:01
I think vape smokers look like big kids sucking on a dummy. He needs toddler training 😩 sorry no real suggestions but tell him others think he looks stupid
KangarooKenny · 15/09/2022 16:03
You either put up or leave as he’s not prepared to compromise.
ExtraJalapenos · 15/09/2022 16:40
Yeh its gross. That's coming from a vaper. Smoking rules should apply, outdoors only, not in the house.
At work I use smoke shelter yet a barrage of absolute bellends vape whilst in the queue for the lunch van. The shelter is about 10 yards away but of course these idiots cannot not vape for even the 2 minutes they wait for their food.
I think he needs to understand its gross, its come out of his mouth ffs. I wouldn't dream of doing it indoors or around other people. And the smells are sickly too!
This thread just makes me want to quit it now lol
Here, have my first LTB lol
edux · 16/09/2022 11:09
OperaStation · 16/09/2022 11:33
It’s very bad for his health and yours. Does he really not care about that?
Has he ever read any of the evidence? There’s plenty out there.
www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/wellness-and-prevention/5-truths-you-need-to-know-about-vaping?amp=true
10HailMarys · 16/09/2022 11:49
It's less harmful than smoking but certainly not harmless.
If he really can't/won't give up then he at least needs to treat it like smoking and stop doing it in the house and in front of the grandkids.
I'm surprised he can vape indoors at work; I've never worked anywhere that it's been allowed! Does he own his own business?
GetOffTheRoof · 16/09/2022 11:55
DH has taken to smoking his fucking vape in bed - I'm about to ban it from the bedroom.....
It's so fucking antisocial if you're a particular variety of wanker using it. DH doesn't notice when he blows it in my face. I've complained this week when he phones me because I'm sick of the slurping noise he makes in my ear he's on a call. He seems to deep breathe the bloody thing - nothing like he did when he smoked. AND its never out his hand, especially when driving which gives me the absolute rage.
I told him years ago I'm not interested in the vape, the liquid, the bloody parts that need replacing every five minutes or how it works. We didn't discuss smoking, ever, except if he ran out it tobacco and had to pop to the shop. Why is a bloody vape a conversation piece with me Every. Bloody. Day?
It makes me want to take smoking up again so I can go out the house to avoid it.
Ah that was a nice rant.
In practice though, maybe agree he'll use it like he did cigarettes? Outside. Or agreed rooms of the house?
Allywill · 16/09/2022 11:57
Isn’t it water vapour that’s coming out - like steam? So not smoke. It does smell though.
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