My DH and I were smokers on and off for years. We gave up for about 7 years and then began to smoke cigars instead!
About 8 years ago we both agreed that we would give up completely again. We used a weekend away as a starting point as it's always easier to give up smoking when you've changed your routine etc.
I've never smoked anything since and DH has not smoked anything but took up vaping about a YEAR after he gave up smoking cigars.
He has vaped constantly in the house - all over the house - and the car - he honestly HONESTLY puts that fucking thing in his gob and has a suck at LEAST every five minutes. He does it at work, on the way to work, on the way home from work and at every given opportunity.
The ONLY time he doesn't have it with him is once a week when he does the food shopping (but he goes without me anyway).
I fucking hate it - I hate the smell of it - I hate the look of it when he's doing it - I hate the clouds of smoke and the fact that he does it in front of our grandchildren.
He's got absolutely NO intention of giving up whatsoever and has only agreed to not do it in a couple of areas of the house.
He thinks it smells "lovely" and that everyone at work says "I love coming into your room it always smells so nice".
To me it smells chemically and really chloying.
We've just had yet another row about it because his attitude is that he just won't give it up or cut down or anything.
I don't understand it - when he was smoking cigars he would go down to the garage once an evening and smoke one..... but this thing is just so habit forming he can't stop.
What can I do short of leaving him? How can I stop the smell everywhere - I swear to god it permeates the furniture like cigarette smoke does too...
... and there's also the lack of knoweldge around it - he swears blind it is "harmless" but how does he know this?!