HELP, NOSEY MIL

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AIBU in wanting my privacy when I have a day off work?
MIL sees my car in the drive on her way to work, so if my car is there she will ask my husband why I'm not at work. Then she will continue to ask me when I next see her if we haven't told her why. I've just lost my job so I don't know what to tell her but I don't want her knowing at all. How can I shut down the question of why I'm not at work.

I want to say something along the lines of "don't worry about my work schedule so much" any advice

What does your husband say about this? Does he agree she's out of order?

It's time to stop being a doormat and be assertive. Tell her to mind her own business.

I wouldn't lie as it will just grow legs and turn into a bigger deal and could she have found out from someone else anyway. Just tell her and then just tell her you are fine and not really going to discuss it. If she is overly interfering and controlling then your husband need to have a word with her on those occasions.

I agree with @Aquamarine1029 WTF!

But how can I be polite and stop her asking nosey questions in general?

Park car elsewhere until new job secured.

Park elsewhere is the only solution if you aren't going to be direct and tell her to FUCK OFF.

You probably can't.
Which one is more important to you, polite or no more nosy questions?

If she's being impolite, why can't you be impolite too?

Why are you concerned with being "polite?" She certainly doesn't give a fuck about being polite to you.

Be firm and don't apologise for having boundaries.

Say why do you want to know.

I used to ask that. Now I use "why do you need to know?"

You can want to know for many reasons. Nosiness being one.

Explaining why you need to know is difficult.