Long story short: we recently bought a new house (before all of the cost of living crisis), and to furnish and decorate it exactly how we wanted straight away we put some things on a credit card. All of this was manageable, however of course everything has gone up now and I’m unable to work the extra night shifts as I did since I am now pregnant and struggling a bit with night shifts (however, I can manage my contracted hours, just not any extra. I’m also cleaning on the side too to boost income).
Naturally, we’re both a bit worried about our financial situation, but not overly worried, just that much that my husband has made out a spreadsheet with all in-goings v out-goings and how we need to be extra tight these next few months so we can pay off the credit card debt. Fine, understood. Daily he has been going on about it to me, to which I always agree that I understand how important it is so he doesn’t need to remind me several times a day, I’ve obviously kept calm in the beginning as I understand how important it is but it’s starting to get me down because I don’t understand why I’m being reminded all the time, I always stick to out food shopping budget etc. if anything he is the one that has been too happy to use the credit card. So obviously I’ve been feeling a bit down about our situation these past few days, and last night my husband dropped his phone on the floor and broke the screen, not cracked the screen, broke the lcd screen, however you can still use the touch screen fine, can still see messages etc. it’s just a bit fuzzy and a bit of it’s black. He is due for a new phone in 2 months anyway. Obviously he was very angry about the situation and was looking at phones last night, he told me it would be £120 to upgrade early, free in 2 months, I said to him just wait 2 months because the screen wasn’t that bad, he was not happy, I even offered my phone to him, but he was just so angry for the rest of the night, but he’s the one that keeps going on about being tight so I just thought it was unnecessary when the screen works. When I asked some things he just told me to f off upstairs basically, like there were several pairs of his shoes at the bottom of the stairs instead of on the shoe rack out of the way, I was told to just leave him alone. So I did, all night I stayed in bed. Didn’t talk to him when he came up because I was upset. This morning he was fine, out of his mood, but I was still upset. He was saying things like how he’s fed up of this sh*t every day! I’ve been fine every day! And so on, so I got upset (I’m trying my best to hold it all in but our current financial situation and this just got the best of me), so I did cry and our daughter saw because obviously I was getting her ready for school.
AIBU to be upset or should I let it go? I’m just a bit sick of keeping it all in and then letting him take his anger out on me when I’m obviously feeling a bit like that but I don’t take it out on anyone!