AIBU to expect DH to keep DS awake?

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DH has DS(3yo) on Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays from 4pm to 6pm. Bedtime is at 7pm. The first day of this arrangement was Friday because that was DS’s first day back at nursery after the summer holidays - so DH has had him 3 times so far. If DS sleeps during the day (especially later in the day) then he won’t go to sleep at bedtime. If he has bedtime at 4pm then he’ll wake up around 3am and not go back down.

Each time, I’ve asked DH not to let DS fall asleep because it messes up bedtime or overnight. Each time, DH has let him fall asleep. He’s always asleep when I see him at 6pm. He’s then in a really shitty mood from being woken up - so the only time I see him, he’s miserable. DH insists he can’t keep him awake. I’ve made multiple suggestions on how to keep him entertained but DH admits he hasn’t even tried them - his only efforts are to try and wake DS once he’s already asleep and then gives up because DS is grumpy and a deep sleeper.

AIBU to expect that DH should be able to get DS to stay awake, reasonably happy and preferably fed for two hours three times a week?

He does seem a bit sleepy

And your DH needs to actually parent him of he needs to stay awake or he wakes up at 3am then that's what he needs to do

Those who are saying it is unusual for a 3 year old to want to sleep at these times - I thought this was totally normal! My older one was like this too. Wake up at 7-7:30, at the end of a busy day ready to conk out if sitting on the couch. I’d reckon to be able to fit in a nap they would need to be up for the day much earlier to feel the need to nap before it’s too late and still have a normal bed time. I know I could probably fall asleep after before dinner if I didn’t need to be the one making it 😁