To get annoyed at DH sleeping in the day?

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Me and DH are both at home with our 3 month old DS all day, I’m exclusively breastfeeding and do vast majority of the baby work save for maybe an hour a day when DH takes over for me to shower or go to the dentist etc! We sleep separately so DH we both sleep better but he’s on the sofa. He reckons he doesn’t sleep well on the sofa although he doesn’t get up til 9/10am and then wants to nap during the day. This irritates me as it’s difficult to keep entertaining a little one who doesn’t want to sleep, and I get tired too! He says I’m selfish to not let him nap during the day when all I want is for us to hang out together as I feel lonely and bored living with the in laws. AIBU?

Well, you've got a vision of your future. You'll be the parent, doing all the grunt work all of the time. Decide now if this is what you really want for the next 18years.

Sounds like a total bloody nightmare!

You had a baby with a man child who thinks all the domestic drudgery is your job.

It’s not. But he isn’t going to change. He’s also going to be a shit role model for your child.

He sounds pathetic. Tell the twat to get a job now and one that works around his Masters.

How old are you both?

You've not had a baby with an adult man. Get used to it as they don't change, or make changes now.

Your DH adds nothing to your life, if I were you I'd move back with my parents and start divorce proceedings.

If he doesn’t change leave. What is he adding?

Why does he view you as the default parent? If you are both at home you should both be caring equally for your baby and both getting equal downtime.

What do his parents think of the fact he won’t parent?

You're both home and not working atm, which is brilliant because you can both bond with the baby and learn how to care for him together.

50:50 childcare is fair here. You're default parent in the mornings, and he is in the afternoons (or vice versa).

I know you're exclusively breastfeeding, but could you express? He needs to pitch in at night also. No excuses not to while he's home full time.

He won't change Op , trust me , this will be your life now.

Leave the house during the day for 6 hours leaving a couple of bottles of expressed milk behind.

He'll soon learn.