We have two kids. One is a few months old, the other is 2 and a half.
I am on maternity leave.
At the end of each day, I just don't have anything to give to my husband who returns from work. I often leave food out for him,I'll greet him and some nights I will stay downstairs with him for a bit, but other nights I just go upstairs and fall asleep. He's not around predictively at the weekend. He has the odd day off here and there, when we do spend more time together.
I sleep separately with the baby, as to not wake up husband who has a brutal schedule and needs to be out of the house by 6 am.
Older one goes to nursery some days. I am constantly busy with house stuff and looking after the baby and toddler, it's insane. I hate my life basically and live for the evenings where I can just have an hour of peace and sleep a bit before baby wakes up.
Is this OK : normal ?
AIBU?
Am I a rubbish wife?
FEF · 13/09/2022 20:30
Hugasauras · 13/09/2022 20:35
Wife isn't a job title, so you can't be good or bad at it IMO.
I think relationships often have to take a back seat during the early months of a new baby. The sign of a good relationship is that it can weather that. My husband and I can easily manage a few months of not seeing each other as much or having much time together because we have been together more than 10 years and know this is just a short phase in our lives.
I'd worry less about that for now and more about getting yourself a break as you sound done in! It's tough, I have a 3.5yo and a 12wo and some days I feel like a frazzled mess! But it doesn't last, so you just have to try to keep smiling, lower your standards about house work and cooking and find joy in the smaller things.
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