Would like some perspective on the situation so here it goes
Im in my mid twenties
Back in my early college days I met this guy. We hit it off straight away, we was "dating" according to him until I found out he had a gf. Any ways years later we started a fwb relationship until he got a serious gf. Then a yr into this serious relationship he tried to talk to me about meeting up. After years of his crap and hating being used on the side I blocked him. But a whole 6/7 years later and he was still trying to reach out to me and send friend requests on any media platform he could.
When did this didnt work he used mutual friends to try and contact me. I had to block them too. He then messaged me saying he knew about my dc (through a friends account) so I spoke to him as I found it unsettled he knew somehow, i never post dc online. It made me feel uneasy as the only people who should know about dc are close people in my life.
So as I started talking to him of course it got quickly inappropriate, asking me if I ever liked him and flirting ect. I shut it down and didnt engage. He wanted to meet and told me I could go to his. Every day he was messaging me, trying to call me, sending me pictures. Eventually after I realised how he knew about dc i cut him off. Although since I spoke to him he has persisted in trying to come back into my life permanently.
But here is the thing. I have a close gf who knows of him and is also a good friend to his long term gf. So I decided to tell her after she declared this guy and his gf are "happily still together" and her response threw me. She blamed me for even talking to him and allowing the door to be open. I reminded her I did nothing wrong and shut down all advances. I was telling my friend because if I was the other girl I would want someone to do that for me. I didnt expect that she necessarily rang the gf up there and then to disclose it all but I wasn't expected to be blamed for his actions, well that's how it felt anyways. I was not the one in the wrong. My dp knows of this guy and the fact that I allowed him communication to find out why he was so desperately trying to get through to me and keep an eye on my life. I told said friend this but she just couldn't see past my apparent wrong doings in the situation which was talking to him again and completely disregarded his cheating advances in the mean time and fixated on that instead.
So who is bu here? I haven't spoken to my dfriend since because I feel weird about her reaction trying to pointing the finger ay me. But maybe Im being too sensitive about it?