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To see people wearing colourful clothing at the queen's funeral?

63 replies

dottypotter · 12/09/2022 20:30

Wouldn't it be good to see everyone in colour as the queen liked to wear rather than black?
Will anybody think of it and do it I wonder?

Black is so morbid and becoming outdated.

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MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 12/09/2022 22:37

UWhatNow · 12/09/2022 21:46

“Black is becoming outdated at funerals.”

Really? You’ve done the stats in that have you? 🙄

Some of us like traditional and dignified.

It really is unusual now to see everyone in black at funerals now. Unfortunately I've been to loads over the last few years.

Blossomtoes · 12/09/2022 22:39

KimberleyClark · 12/09/2022 22:34

I do think wearing black to funerals is becoming outdated especially for those who have died of old age. It’s more fitting for those who have died young/tragically I think.

Another prime example of MN ageism - your death apparently doesn’t matter if you’re old. It bloody matters to the people who have loved them all their lives.

DashboardConfessional · 12/09/2022 22:42

She didn't wear black to her own husband's funeral! I don't think she would have been up for random lime green though.

Luredbyapomegranate · 12/09/2022 22:43

No. If she’d have wanted people in colour she’d have said so. She was a traditionalist, she wore black in mourning.

I’m sure some people will be in national dress mind you.

Georgeskitchen · 12/09/2022 22:44

Part of the reason why the Queen always wore bright colours, apart from she obviously liked them, was to make her visible at all times to her security team. This is what I have been told

KimberleyClark · 12/09/2022 22:44

Blossomtoes · 12/09/2022 22:39

Another prime example of MN ageism - your death apparently doesn’t matter if you’re old. It bloody matters to the people who have loved them all their lives.

I’m not being ageist, that’s ridiculous. Just saying that death at the end of a long life is natural. It’s different to the death of a child or young person.

My own mum died aged 93. I didn’t wear black to her funeral, at least not all black.

Luredbyapomegranate · 12/09/2022 22:47

DashboardConfessional · 12/09/2022 22:42

She didn't wear black to her own husband's funeral! I don't think she would have been up for random lime green though.

@DashboardConfessional

Yes she did. Google it.
The RF always wear black in mourning.

JesusMaryAndJosephAndTheWeeDon · 12/09/2022 22:48

The Queen always wore black for funerals/mourning, rememberence Sunday and audiences with the pope.

She would have made it clear if she didn't want people in black at her funeral. It wasn't as if her funeral was unplanned.

NellBeau · 12/09/2022 22:50

I think the Queen was very traditional and would want black. I’m sure she wore black to Prince Philips funeral.

When I die I want everyone in black, none of this bright colour malarkey. I loathe bright colours, my wardrobe is predominantly black. It would be a celebration of my life in black.

JesusMaryAndJosephAndTheWeeDon · 12/09/2022 22:52

DashboardConfessional · 12/09/2022 22:42

She didn't wear black to her own husband's funeral! I don't think she would have been up for random lime green though.

Yep definitely not in black. No there's no black to see here

To see people wearing colourful clothing at the queen's funeral?
KermitlovesKeyLimePie · 12/09/2022 22:56

@DashboardConfessional What colour did you think she wore?

Even her face mask was black!

Womencanlift · 12/09/2022 22:56

DashboardConfessional · 12/09/2022 22:42

She didn't wear black to her own husband's funeral! I don't think she would have been up for random lime green though.

What funeral did you watch? The rest of us saw her sitting (alone, let’s not forget) in black

Agree with others that bright colours at a funeral is tacky for an adult. I would appreciate it for a child but for an adult I would definitely wear black. To me is about being respectful to the occasion

DashboardConfessional · 12/09/2022 22:59

Apologies, it was his memorial I was remembering the photos of, to which she wore green.

Penguinsaregreat · 12/09/2022 22:59

I’ve always worn black to funerals with the exception being when asked to wear a specific colour. I wore a bright long dress to one funeral as that was what the deceased requested before they died.

StoneofDestiny · 12/09/2022 23:01

Don't think the queen will notice what anybody is wearing

saraclara · 12/09/2022 23:02

She might have worn bright colours, but not at funerals.

KimberleyClark · 12/09/2022 23:02

I think plain clothes in neutral or deep sombre colours are fine. Not loud prints. Unless the deceased has asked for them.

Womencanlift · 12/09/2022 23:03

StoneofDestiny · 12/09/2022 23:01

Don't think the queen will notice what anybody is wearing

The rest of the world will though. If Camilla, Kate or gob forbid Meghan turned up in anything but black then I don’t think the comments would be “oh that’s a nice touch” it would be “WTAF!”

Marvellousmadness · 12/09/2022 23:05

Black isnt morbid
Nor outdated

People can choose whatever colour theyd like to wear whether that is black or white or a color.

And the queen only wore bright colors so she could be spotted easily haha

Creameggs223 · 12/09/2022 23:10

She was a traditional ladie why on earth would she want to break it now black is respectful and those sayings it's morbid your going to a funeral not a party do you want balloons and party poppers aswell.

MaggieFS · 12/09/2022 23:11

I heard that black only came in for mourning in the Victorian era. Any truth in that?

UWhatNow · 12/09/2022 23:16

Plump82 · 12/09/2022 21:51

How offensive. My dad's funeral was dignified and he also asked for no black clothing .

Keep your knickers on. It was a general comment about black being more dignified. I didn’t set out to specifically ‘offend’ you and your exact family circumstances 🙄

mpsw · 12/09/2022 23:19

It'll be colourful because of the uniforms and those opting to wear national dress, and representatives of nationalities whose formal mourning colour is white. I expect medals will be worn

But it's a State funeral, highly formal, and so the dress code will be black, and it will be observed. Look at what the Queen herself wore to funerals - matte black (even veils back in the 50s) with non-glitzy jewellery.

CaptainBarbosa · 12/09/2022 23:20

Womencanlift · 12/09/2022 23:03

The rest of the world will though. If Camilla, Kate or gob forbid Meghan turned up in anything but black then I don’t think the comments would be “oh that’s a nice touch” it would be “WTAF!”

True, I also wonder if they will have veils. Now that would be a "😯" moment.

Nobody has really worn veils at protestant funerals for years!

RoseAndRose · 12/09/2022 23:24

MaggieFS · 12/09/2022 23:11

I heard that black only came in for mourning in the Victorian era. Any truth in that?

Yes and no.

Black was the colour of mourning beforehand (widows weeds and all that) but the Victorians took it to a whole new level, because the widowed Queen did, so the aristocracy and the upper class followed suit - and then QV didn't stop.

Men's clothing in particular never recovered the bright colours, high heels and pantaloons of the Georgian days