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I don't want to be 'reigned over' anymore

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Yubgftr · 11/09/2022 23:39

While I totally respect the Queen and how she served the country, I think it's now a good time to end the monarchy as I think modern society has outgrown it.

Just the idea that someone inherits the job of head of state through birthright and reigns over us peasants is crazy in this modern age. Then all the ceremonies, titles, line of succession are remnants of a completely different era and tbh remind me of episodes of The Tudors or Game of Thrones, it's just so archaic and out of place.

I think having to bow and curtsey to people just because they were born or married into a special family also seems ridiculous. Why should I have to curtsey to any of them? Not saying I'd be rude or disrespectful but having to bend my knee to a set of people as if they were deities, it's just insane! I think I'd actually feel humiliated.

I also don't get the fawning and crying outside the palace - by all means be respectful and recognise her contribution but crying about someone you've never met? To me it's OTT

Back in medieval times when there was little education and religion was used to manipulate the masses, I can understand why all the peasants went mad for their sovereign and saw them as annointed by God etc etc but we're much more enlightened now (most of us!) so we need to make way for a new way of doing things.

Even a new national anthem - why is it all about the king or queen and god saving them? Why not about the people, the nation as a whole?

That said, I also hate the idea of someone like Boris Johnson being head of state and I bet that's a role he'd go for if we were a Republic. Swings and Roundabouts!

YABU - God save the king, monarchy forever
YANBU - time to end the monarchy

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GaffNest · 12/09/2022 08:21

UsernameIsCopied · 12/09/2022 08:02

I don't understand why people keep saying they prefer a king to a democratically elected head of state. The king in the UK has a representational role and that's it, he doesn't actually decide anything political. A show pony. What's the point? And opening up Buckingham Palace would bring in a lot more money than a royal family who live off our money.
I think the British monarchy is an embarrassment and I don't understand why people honestly believe they make the country a better place.

Telling people to emigrate because they don't want a monarchy shows how royalists lack arguments in their favour. All they can think of is "off you pop". Pathetic.

Yeah an “embarrassment” that brings unquantifiable wealth to Britain. This “embarrassment” is why cameras around the world are following every move this week (and more generally, constantly). This “embarrassment” is why world leaders are climbing over themselves to pay tribute, why business leaders (such as Jeff Bezos) do likewise, and why the news networks have been so mocking.

Plaudits and generating huge wealth, I’d love to be this form of an “embarrassment”.

LakieLady · 12/09/2022 08:24

BarrelOfOtters · 12/09/2022 06:49

If we had a complete lunatic as a king, or an idiot, or say….Andrew. Would the country have any say really?

If Charles had died before having children, we would now have King Andrew. The heir to the throne inherits the throne, regardless of how unsuitable they may be for the role. It's completely random; if the idiot sleazeball (possible) sex criminal is born first, they get the job.

I wonder how many of those who support the continuation of the monarchy would feel the same if some dreadful calamity were to wipe out William and his children, and we were faced with the next royal family being headed by King Henry IX and Queen Meghan? I presume a lot of the bile spewed about them comes from supporters of the monarchy, because for republicans, it matters no more than any other celebrity.

At least if the head of state is elected, we have the chance to get rid if they turn out to be useless.

We should have an elected upper house, too, while we're at it, not one packed with govt donors and similar lackeys.

GaffNest · 12/09/2022 08:26

PurpleDaisies · 12/09/2022 08:08

There isn’t a better system of governance on the planet

Than choosing a head of state based on birth order in one family? You honestly think there couldn’t be a more democratic way to do that?

A better system than a powerless, non partisan, unifying, figurehead as head of state?

Where?

Echobelly · 12/09/2022 08:27

I feel it would be sort of a shame to totally end such a long line, but I'd think it'd be totally fair to stop giving them any state money and let them live off their (vast) land holdings, which would be plenty of income, and become more like the Dutch and I think Danish monarchies which exist but are much lighter-weight, don't have some much security etc.

JanisMoplin · 12/09/2022 08:27

I thought this by Nesrin Malik in the Guardian was spot on. www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2022/sep/11/queen-britain-sacred-national-image-national-royal-fallibility

LovingTheseAutumnSnippets · 12/09/2022 08:27

get the likes of Bill Clinton, Barack Obama and Angela Merkel.

Did you mean that tongue in cheek?

I wouldn’t want any of them either.

LePigeon · 12/09/2022 08:28

walkingonsunshinekat · 12/09/2022 07:59

The "Off you pop brigade" are making the biggest argument ever to get rid of the royals.

We live in a democracy and can express whatever opinion we like, if you don't like that, then you know what to do!

These threads always descend into such nastiness with personal insults being thrown around and demanding people 'leave the country' because they dare to have a differing opinion on the monarchy.

It's a shame we aren't allowed to have a reasonable discussion/debate on here without the royal fanatics coming along and ruining it.

ItsRainingPens · 12/09/2022 08:28

Yubgftr · 12/09/2022 06:44

Loads of interesting comments. Tbh thinking on it some more I really do hate the thought of a Boris Johnson Head of State more than a Charles and I just know that would happen in a Republic.

I could probably accept the monarchy if it was properly modernised: slimmed right down, get rid of some of the ridiculous pomp and ceremony, change the language that's archaic, a better national anthem that recognises the people, not so much money involved etc

Something like what Belgium has, maybe?

DdraigGoch · 12/09/2022 08:28

Newdawnnewdog88 · 12/09/2022 00:48

This is silly Most people in the UK want to retain the monarchy

That is an interesting assumption. And how would you know? The general public are never asked the question!

As an admittedly small snapshot look at the voting percentages on this thread. The issue is not as clear cut as you might like to think. Up to this week here have been many many threads on Mumsnet saying that now would be a good time to end the monarchy.

Referendums can take years of planning, and one will only be called if there's a significant change of constitutional change. Did you really think the Queen would die and the monarchy would just cease to exist for a bit while a referendum nobody asked for was held?

With the technologies that currently exist, a referendum needn't take three years to organise and if it became a standard procedure following the death of a monarch then it could be built in to the protocols following the death of a monarch.

The last time I looked we lived in a democracy which means the ability to lobby ones MP to agitate for change and having to tolerate views of the populace that may not correspond with one's own. It doesn't mean blocking the ability of reasonable people to express those views in a civilised manner or telling them to leave the country!

What do you mean "the general public are never asked"? What do you think polling companies are for?

This is the latest poll on the subject:
docs.cdn.yougov.com/tzluoaf4hh/YouGov%20-%20Jubilee%20-%20Views%20of%20the%20Monarchy%20Survey%20Results.pdf

A pretty decent majority. Why waste money on a referendum that is a foregone conclusion?

CMZ2018 · 12/09/2022 08:29

Clear off then

TwoCoffeesPlease · 12/09/2022 08:30

Neverendingdust · 11/09/2022 23:45

You could move? I like being a loyal subject, and I’m immensely supportive of the billions of pounds the Royal family tourism brings into this country.

I love this argument.

Do you really think no one would pay to visit the royal establishments if there was no longer a monarchy?

The most visited palace in the world is Versailles and the French definitely never overthrew their monarchy…

Ereshkigalangcleg · 12/09/2022 08:31

With the technologies that currently exist, a referendum needn't take three years to organise and if it became a standard procedure following the death of a monarch then it could be built in to the protocols following the death of a monarch.

But it isn't a standard procedure, and no one said it was going to take place this time so I'm not sure why you "don't understand" why Charles was proclaimed King so quickly. Yes, you are naive if you genuinely thought they were going to halt 1000 years of succession to the throne to have a ponder about whether to bother this time.

JanisMoplin · 12/09/2022 08:31

CMZ2018 · 12/09/2022 08:29

Clear off then

Make me?

The new Tebbit test:)

TwoCoffeesPlease · 12/09/2022 08:33

TwoCoffeesPlease · 12/09/2022 08:30

I love this argument.

Do you really think no one would pay to visit the royal establishments if there was no longer a monarchy?

The most visited palace in the world is Versailles and the French definitely never overthrew their monarchy…

Edit to say I meant Europe!

KimberleyClark · 12/09/2022 08:35

GaffNest · 12/09/2022 08:26

A better system than a powerless, non partisan, unifying, figurehead as head of state?

Where?

Ireland seem to manage it. They’ve had some fine Presidents, Mary Robinson, Mary McAleese and now Michael D Higgins.

notimagain · 12/09/2022 08:35

I wonder how many of those helpfully suggesting some posters should just "clear off" or "pop off" had a hand in the decision that made it much more difficult for many people to do exactly that?

Sugerfree · 12/09/2022 08:36

IfOnlyOurEyesSawSouls · 11/09/2022 23:47

Then please move abroad

Not an option, sadly.

Apparently Brexit has rendered travel abroad next to impossible. As well as super gonorrhea, inevitable.

GaffNest · 12/09/2022 08:36

JanisMoplin · 12/09/2022 08:05

I volunteer at a heritage site. Visitors are always very astonished to know that the royals were heavily involved in slavery and profited from it. Their jaws drop open in shock... Yes, so were many other monarchs and companies. The difference is as a POC I am not expected to fawn over them, but loving the royals is apparently some sort of Tebbit test for Britishness....

Prince Phillip visited my workplace. I did not attend that day as I didn't want to shake his hand or curtsey or do anything to acknowledge him, really. If Winston Churchill were alive, I wouldn't acknowledge him either because one person's hero is another person's war criminal.

Surely the country is strong enough to tolerate different views...

The US was founded by slaveowners.

Eight presidents owned slaves.

Two of them, Washington and Jefferson, took out adverts in newspapers to get their runaway slaves back.

blogs.loc.gov/loc/2019/10/runaway-how-george-washington-and-other-slave-owners-used-newspapers-to-hunt-escaped-slaves/

Now I’m not aware of any monarch owning slaves (Slavery was never legal in England)...perhaps they had some overseas? If (and it’s a big if) you have to go back more than two centuries. Contrast this with the US.

Mount Rushmore has 4 presidents sculpted on it.

Washington - owned 600 shaves
Jefferson - owned 600 slaves
T.Roosevelt - called for the massacre of the natives “nine out of 10 (natives) died, and I won’t inquire into the health of the 10th”
Lincoln - “I am not nor ever have been in favour of making voters or jurors of XXXX (term for black people), nor of qualifying them to hold office, nor to intermarry with white people”.

LePigeon · 12/09/2022 08:37

Neverendingdust · 11/09/2022 23:45

You could move? I like being a loyal subject, and I’m immensely supportive of the billions of pounds the Royal family tourism brings into this country.

Is there any proof of the "billions" they supposedly bring in? This is just a baseless theory thrown around with no evidence behind it.

Tourists coming to the UK to visit our historical buildings doesn't equate to them visiting because of our current royal family.

ImJustMadAboutSaffron · 12/09/2022 08:38

LePigeon · 12/09/2022 08:28

These threads always descend into such nastiness with personal insults being thrown around and demanding people 'leave the country' because they dare to have a differing opinion on the monarchy.

It's a shame we aren't allowed to have a reasonable discussion/debate on here without the royal fanatics coming along and ruining it.

@LePigeon Indeed, as evidenced by the thread I started last night. I have made the mistake of thinking MN is rather like a debating society! Most people have not read at all what I've been trying to discuss and just got themselves outraged and had a go at me. Silly really.

DdraigGoch · 12/09/2022 08:38

TheSpringyGuyAndTheCheeseEater · 12/09/2022 01:16

And given that the court did its job is there really a problem

Are you serious? Our elected Parliament was prevented from exercising its powers, invested in it by voters. Yes that is a problem. A HUGE problem. Debate was prevented. MPs were left helpless to respond in the best interests of their constituents - which is their legal duty - as they were trying to do before this illegal act was committed.

Not to mention that the person who carried out this illegal activity and lied to the Head of State was allowed to continue in office?

I bet the Queen wished at that point that she still had the authority to do us all a favour and to have him carted off to the Tower.

Of course it is a problem. 🤣 You win the most absurd post of the day (that I have had the misfortune to come across). 🏆

By "allowed to continue in office" you mean "was re-elected by an increased majority at the subsequent election". The public clearly didn't care in large enough numbers.

GaffNest · 12/09/2022 08:39

TwoCoffeesPlease · 12/09/2022 08:33

Edit to say I meant Europe!

And why did France overthrow their (absolutist) monarchy?

*clue, answer is in the question.

CapMarvel · 12/09/2022 08:41

Flubber88 · 12/09/2022 00:32

By the thousands that turned out today to see the Queens coffin. Absolute thousands. And that isn't relevant. Uneducated.

Is that the best you can do?

By that measure the Queen is very unpopular given the vast majority of people didn't line up to wave at a car go past.

DillDanding · 12/09/2022 08:42

I think there’s a natural upturn in support and fondness for the monarchy in the immediate aftermath of the queen’s death.

The undertow of increasing disillusionment with having royal family is still there. I bet in a few months’ time it will come to the surface once more. Charles will have a big job to maintain the current momentum of favour. I hope he makes some big changes in terms of scaling it down.

JanisMoplin · 12/09/2022 08:43

GaffNest · 12/09/2022 08:36

The US was founded by slaveowners.

Eight presidents owned slaves.

Two of them, Washington and Jefferson, took out adverts in newspapers to get their runaway slaves back.

blogs.loc.gov/loc/2019/10/runaway-how-george-washington-and-other-slave-owners-used-newspapers-to-hunt-escaped-slaves/

Now I’m not aware of any monarch owning slaves (Slavery was never legal in England)...perhaps they had some overseas? If (and it’s a big if) you have to go back more than two centuries. Contrast this with the US.

Mount Rushmore has 4 presidents sculpted on it.

Washington - owned 600 shaves
Jefferson - owned 600 slaves
T.Roosevelt - called for the massacre of the natives “nine out of 10 (natives) died, and I won’t inquire into the health of the 10th”
Lincoln - “I am not nor ever have been in favour of making voters or jurors of XXXX (term for black people), nor of qualifying them to hold office, nor to intermarry with white people”.

I am well aware of US history. But I am talking about the royals here. Besides, my sister is a US citizen and she is not required to fawn over Jefferson as a test of belonging.

This on the royals links with slavery. Not a big if. www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2022/mar/25/slavery-royal-family-jamaica-ducke-duchess-cambridge-caribbean-slave-trade

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