1 year old will only sleep on me

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Still have to feed her to sleep. When I do put her down on cot for sleeps or at bedtime she wakes frequently until I hold her then sleeps soundly for the rest of her nap/rest of the night.

I am currently in bed with her and the dog hearing the birds tweeting fantasising about the glass of cold white wine I could be having were I not stuck in bed with her at 8pm! Tonight particularly bad, I normally manage to keep putting her back down in her cot when she wakes up til I come to bed about 11ish.

Am I being unreasonable to think she will eventually just grow out of this??

Sleep train - disclaimer this is completely not the same as 'cry it out'

Get a sleep trainer and get your life back and better sleep for her.

What else have you tried?

Well I'm sure she will grow out of it and you won't have to cuddle her to sleep as an adult but how long you can put up with it is another matter. Would you consider sleep training?

Have you tried having a mattress on the floor/low bed for her then you can feed, and extract and roll away to escape?

Is she still breast fed? Is it that comfort she wants?

Does she have a duvet in her cot? It might be you're just cosy.

We sometimes put her cot Matress on the floor in her room on bad nights but it doesn't always work. In bed at night with me I try the slide and roll technique (thank you Ross Geller) and if she's in a deep enough sleep it works.

Yes she is, once she has my nipple in her mouth she's back to sleep. She would never take a real dummy, she prefers the human kind.

I would if it meant no crying. I kind of hoped once she grew out of separation anxiety this might all go away 😅

No crying means carry on as you are for another year or two. Any change - however gradual - will involve crying.

I fully sympathise, mine is 10 months and the same. Except I can't even put her down in the cot. I'm basically in bed from 7pm-7am.

She slept decent chunks of up to 7 hours in the next to me until 4 month regression, since then we rarely go 2 hours without waking. She sometimes sleeps next to me in bed but I'm more likely to get some sleep longer than 40 minutes if she is on me.

I always said I'd never bed share but somehow here we are! Tried sleep training and she was violently sick from crying even with us in the room.

Currently doing an online course wIth a holistic sleep coach who has advised a tongue tie assessment... she reckons that 90% of babies she refers for some level of oral dysfunction. So getting that looked at and shall see where we are!

My 22 month was like that as a baby. It’s gradually gotten better. He now goes down in his crib for the first half of the night and usually ends up in my bed the second half , usually on me or snuggled up as close to me as possible . He still nurses a ton BUT he will settle for my husband if I need a night out . He occasionally surprises us by waking up in the night , playing in his crib and then falling asleep on his own. It’s slowly getting better ( very slowly haha).

She will grow out of it. My daughter was exactly the same, except she wouldn't sleep in her cot for even a minute at the age of 1 🙈 She's 2.5 now and is still fed to sleep but will nap in her cot for 2 hours at lunch and usually sleeps in there about half the night. I think 18 months was a turning point for us.
It's so tough and so exhausting - I read all the books, bought all the things, etc. The only thing that actually made a difference was her getting older. I know that doesn't help much, but you aren't alone!

My daughter 19 months is like this we cosleep with her cot next to our bed

She used to only settle for boob, but now she settles for a cuddle sometimes

I do think they all grow out of it eventually

Do you have a DH or DP? What happens if he goes to her when she wakes?