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Parcel for Neighbour

46 replies

Aretheyhavingalaugh · 11/09/2022 12:19

If you have taken a parcel in for your neighbour, should they come and knock on your door to get it or should you take it to them? They have been notified we have it.

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Oysterbabe · 11/09/2022 13:28

SilverDragonfly1 · 11/09/2022 12:24

Quick suggestion, when you knock, don't have the parcel with you. Wait expectantly for them to put their shoes on and follow you to collect it. After a couple of repeats, I found it worked wonders, inconveniencing them as much as they'd inconvenienced me.

Are there really people like this? It must be exhausting being this petty.

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Aretheyhavingalaugh · 11/09/2022 15:50

It was royal mail and they said they'd leave a card and they always do, the same postman so they do know its here.

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SoupDragon · 11/09/2022 15:52

On more than one occasion I've only found the card after a neighbour has brought the parcel round.

Pixiedust1234 · 11/09/2022 16:07

Delivery drivers dont always put a note through the door. Half the time my neighbours don't know its been delivered or to who so I do as a pp does. I knock on their door without the parcel and make them come straight away.

IglesiasPiggl · 11/09/2022 16:20

If it's not a regular occurrence then it doesn't matter either way, but if it's every week then they should definitely come over promptly each time. Personally, if I take a parcel for my neighbour I usually drop it round because he is elderly and it's easier for me to pop over than him.

IglesiasPiggl · 11/09/2022 16:22

SilverDragonfly1 · 11/09/2022 12:24

Quick suggestion, when you knock, don't have the parcel with you. Wait expectantly for them to put their shoes on and follow you to collect it. After a couple of repeats, I found it worked wonders, inconveniencing them as much as they'd inconvenienced me.

That seems incredibly petty. Surely the only sensible reason to go over without the parcel is because it's too heavy for you to carry easily?

Cw112 · 11/09/2022 16:23

I'd go round with it if I see them come home. Wouldn't bother me in the slightest. Also I've had neighbours drop off parcels I didn't realise they had because I hadn't seen my emails and the delivery driver must have forgotten to put the card through the door so even if I had known it had arrived I wouldn't have known to which neighbour. I think it's a really nice way to do a very simple good turn for my neighbours so I weirdly really like taking parcels in. Wouldn't think twice about dropping it to them but equally I'd go to them if they had one for me unless it was late when I got home.

escapingthecity · 11/09/2022 16:24

Our local delivery companies seem to have stopped leaving a card, so I text to say we've got a parcel and then leave it to them to come round

VictoriaConcordiaCrescit · 11/09/2022 16:32

I open any parcels taken in for neighbour's if not collected within 24 hours

If it's good I keep it, if not I put it on Marketplace

Suedomin · 11/09/2022 16:34

They should come and collect it, but if they don't, just take it round. Sometimes a card isn't put through the door even though they say it is.

ilovesooty · 11/09/2022 16:44

VictoriaConcordiaCrescit · 11/09/2022 16:32

I open any parcels taken in for neighbour's if not collected within 24 hours

If it's good I keep it, if not I put it on Marketplace

Are you being serious?

IglesiasPiggl · 11/09/2022 16:44

VictoriaConcordiaCrescit · 11/09/2022 16:32

I open any parcels taken in for neighbour's if not collected within 24 hours

If it's good I keep it, if not I put it on Marketplace

And do you expect them to do the same to you, even if you're away, sick or had a family emergency? Why not just refuse to take it instead of stealing things under some sort of weird self-appointed rules system?

SoupDragon · 11/09/2022 17:06

VictoriaConcordiaCrescit · 11/09/2022 16:32

I open any parcels taken in for neighbour's if not collected within 24 hours

If it's good I keep it, if not I put it on Marketplace

I know people love to say that opening other people's mail is illegal but what you claim to be doing actually is.

I don't believe you do it though.

Grumpusaurus · 11/09/2022 17:27

When we lived in London, we noticed that delivery drivers don't always leave specific information with whom they left the parcel. It would at most state 'Left with neighbour'. So it could be more than likely that they have no clue who has got their delivery and are hoping whoever took their package will get in touch. We did not take stuff in though after a while, as it disturbed us at our workshop.

PetraBP · 11/09/2022 17:37

Trouble is, if you hold the line and refuse to
drop it round on principle they might never collect it because they might not
know it’s with you (eg because the card has been lost, blown away or
eaten by pet/toddler).

Original poster
Aretheyhavingalaugh · 11/09/2022 17:37

VictoriaConcordiaCrescit · 11/09/2022 16:32

I open any parcels taken in for neighbour's if not collected within 24 hours

If it's good I keep it, if not I put it on Marketplace

Haha how funny, that can't be true. Maybe after a couple of months but not 24 hours!

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MRex · 11/09/2022 17:42

Aretheyhavingalaugh · 11/09/2022 15:50

It was royal mail and they said they'd leave a card and they always do, the same postman so they do know its here.

Reminds me of when I got a card saying the parcel was left with "a neighbour", no door number. Not the immediate neighbours. Turned out to be the chap 4 doors up!

The postman might have not left the correct door number on the card, or the card might have got lost under a mat, or the people might still be away, or they forgot due to family emergency, or whatever. Just knock if you're desperate to be rid of the parcel, you'd have spent less time than all these posts.

RaininSummer · 11/09/2022 17:47

I usually leave them in the hall until they come as it not a big deal unless it's something huge which I probably wouldn't take in anyway.

lildevil · 11/09/2022 17:58

You could pop your own note though the door. I did that when my neighbour had 3 parcels left on their front garden in full view. Put a note through saying where they were and when they could collect as we were about to go out

PortalooSunset · 11/09/2022 18:27

Maybe they're on holiday and haven't seen the note yet? Maybe their dog ate the note? Maybe postie told them the wrong neighbour so when they went round there and their parcel wasn't there they contacted the company to send a replacement?
I'd pop round there I think.

girlmom21 · 11/09/2022 18:36

Just take it round. I don't see the issue.

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