Hen party politics

[Fuzzyduck31]

AIBU - I went on a hen do for my best friend from school as her bridesmaid with ten other hens. We arrived later as we had to work that day. On arrival the only bed left is a pull out mattress on the floor while everyone else nabbed the best rooms in the villa. Although I am one of three bridesmaids I have single handedly made all the decorations, games, party bags and bought a load of goodies for the bride. AIBU to be annoyed about having the worst bed in the villa?

Its happened now, so imo the best thing is to declare a perk of the bad bed is no cooking/washing up. Everyone else except you and the bride does the chores for this trip. Thats fair.

Good idea.

I’d still be pissed off though 😂

It’s ok for someone else to have the shit bed but not you. You were involved in organising this hen so why pick somewhere where there was enough beds? Frankly I would expect one of the bridesmaids to stay in this bed if they organised it knowing one was a put you up … why was this not discussed on booking.
I bet you offered to do all the hen bits you could have delegated or asked someone to help you out.

Funny, as the organiser of a hen I would opt for the shit bed because wouldn't have people giving out. And as others have said would've done room allocation but that's not much goid to u now. If it was a friends night away where I'd be more annoyed. Suck it up I'm afraid

It's annoying for you, but I think it's pretty natural that no one else voluntarily took the crap bed. You'd have to be a bit of a martyr to do that!

Why didn't you ensure the villa was fit for purpose and had bedrooms for all? Clearly one of you was going to have to sleep in a crappy bed, you're just annoyed it is you.

You're not entitled to a better bed just cause you're a bridesmaid. Everyone will have paid to be there. Whoever booked it is at fault here.

You did everything? In which case why are you so silly to book a villa that didn't have enough comfortable/proper beds?

Well I hope you didn't pay the same for the accommodation

So in your hierarchy of importance for bed assignment, who gets the mattress on the floor?

No grown woman should have to pay to sleep in a mattress on the floor!! I would have been fuming to arrive to a hen weekend to find I had forked out for a mattress on the floor…bridesmaid or not!!

Surely if your the type of person to fume about this then you would check the accommodation was suitable before you agreed to go.

Presumably as bridesmaid you had a say in booking the villa, why did you book one without enough beds? Who did you think would be on the mattress? I have to say I'd be really annoyed if I went to a hen do where I'd had no say in the venue, had paid the same as everyone else and ended up on a mattress...

You would share sheets?

I wouldn't want that either but surely you knew that when you booked the place - someone was going to end up with that bed. I'm not sure why you think someone would have just reserved a nicer bed for you. Perhaps if you asked...

Someone has to sleep on it and as last year it makes sense you get last choice of bed. You shouldn’t have agreed to sharing a villa where one of the beds was a pull out bed if you weren’t willing to sleep on it yourself!

There is nothing in your op to say that you organised the hen, or that you booked the villa. Shame people haven't managed to read that.
Whoever booked the villa should have told everyone what to expect in the way of rooms and sleeping arrangements. As I'm a really light sleeper I must admit I always pin that down before parting with my money, but hindsight is a great thing.
Yes, I would be pissed off about this if I didn't know in advance about the sleeping arrangements. If I did I'd have known what to expect as the last person arriving because people will always grab the best they can get as they arrive. If I know I'm not getting a comfortable place to sleep then honestly, I don't go.

In your situation I'd probably have one bad night then go home at the end of the first day to my own comfy bed.

Wrong villa booked. Not enough beds. I would if got a taxi to nearest hotel and checked on there.

Who organised/booked the villa? They should have made sure there were enough proper beds for everyone. That's shit.

Why was it booked knowing not everyone would of had a bed?!

@KateColumbo i don’t know about you but I assume when going on a hen do that there is a proper bed for everyone!! I don’t ask if there’s any “mattresses on floors” because I assume that as grown women we are not slumming it! I have never paid any less than 300 quid for a hen weekend that involves a villa so yes I would be fuming (and rightly so in my opinion!) and as a bridesmaid organising a hen weekend I would rule out any villa if it meant that someone ends up on the floor. I would be so embarrassed!

Some posters on here are being really mean and offhand. @Fuzzyduck31 single-handedly made all the decorations etc whilst the other lazy bridesmaids didn’t lift a finger. I think they’re right CFers personally for basically sticking two fingers up at her and taking the comfy beds. Had I been one of them, I’d have ensured she had a comfy bed, just to say thanks for doing all that work.

If I'd paid the same amount as everyone else then I wouldn't be happy at all. Also, it's not as though you just arrived late because you couldn't be arsed to get there on time, so those saying 'you snooze you lose' appear to have missed the point that you were working.

I'd make it clear that I wanted a room and wouldn't be sleeping on a pull out bed. Stand up for yourself.

YABU. Why is it ok for someone else to get a shitty bed but not you?

Why would you book a villa without enough beds/rooms?

Or the hen do could go ahead without party bags, decorations and additional things for the B2B who presumably already has her accommodation paid for .

Accommodation cost should have been split so person on pull out bed and/or sharing room pays less.