Starting an AIBU and realising you indeed are

[PamperBeige]

Has anyone ever started typing a post on AIBU, and as they write it down, realise they are indeed being unreasonable?

I just spent 15 minutes typing about a situation with a neighbour, and as I read through my post before submitting, I realised I know my answer, so no need to throw myself to the AIBU wolves!

Wondering if anyone else has managed to give themselves a wobble by preparing a post which they never ended up submitting.

AIBU that I want to know about your neighbour now?!

I also want to know how unreasonable you were being.

You seem far too reasonable to have ever been unreasonable, @PamperBeige

The rules of Mumsnet state that you now have to submit your AIBU for which you will then receive an unprecedented 100% YANBU

Oh I definitely have my moments…I tend to realise after I’ve had my unreasonable moment that I was foolish, but I had the foresight this time to realise I can avoid that, thanks to almost posting here!

It was whether I should text a neighbour who I don’t know at all to tell her that her partner (who I also don’t know) had another woman round one day. But then I realised I’m assuming they’re partners when they might not be (they most likely are), I would need to admit they I’ve stalked them (I live in an apartment that looks into theirs, and vice versa, which is when I saw the man with this woman), and I know nothing about their relationship in order to know whether she needs to know that information. I was having a “support your female neighbour” moment but then realised I was being stupid and was indeed being unreasonable.

I'm just being nosy now - did you see the partner.shagging the woman? Or kissing her or something?

They could have an open relationship I guess. Though most people don't.

Don't really think you can/should text her anyway. But it's not that unreasonable a thought!

OMG I've got men coming in and out all the time - and last week one of my closest friend's husband let himself in with a key! What must my neighbours think 🫣.
Well let's see, I'm having some work done and the guys doing it don't look like typical builders (well dressed when not actually working). And my friend's son was looking after my dogs while I was away and forgot a couple things so his dad came to collect them and didn't realise I'd already returned.
Glad you realised you are jumping to conclusions and could have caused a lot of unnecessary drama.

Ok but…if something happens a few months from now, please let us know. I’m invested already lol

Could have been a relative or a friend... My DH's best friend is a woman and they'll routinely have a hello/goodbye hug on the doorstep!

Were they in a state of undress ? or could it be innocent?