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They've got ANOTHER dog

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FooFighter99 · 09/09/2022 16:44

Honestly, I know I'm going to be told to mind my own business, but still....

A relative of mine, with whom I'm not close, but Facebook friends with, has just bought themselves a third dog

Which would be fine, if they didn't already have 4 kids under 7 (the dogs are the breed which is in the paper often as having mauled/killed a child)

I'm pretty sure they're going to breed them to make money as they don't currently work (which again would be fine, but I can 100% guarantee they won't be health checked or anything, just unscrupulously bred with no regard for the health and well being of the animals)

I'm biting my tongue, but the temptation to say something is very VERY strong

Someone talk me down

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spoonielife95 · 09/09/2022 16:45

I know it’s hard to watch because yes it’s irresponsible but it’s their lives and their business if it all goes wrong, try to not let it wind you up (I know it’s hard!)

WiddlinDiddlin · 09/09/2022 16:51

All you'll achieve is likely, them blocking you and carrying on anyway - they're not going to listen to you, if they were, they'd not have done this in the first place.

If you genuinely think the children are at risk (And owning a specific type or breed of dog is not sufficient... you'd need to know about the behaviour of those dogs or know that the dogs are left with the children often etc etc) then report to social services.

Otherwise, stay out of it, as it will do no good to do otherwise.

Fenella123 · 09/09/2022 16:54

Of course you want to say something! Of course you do!
But, you're an adult. You consider whether saying something will make anything change for the better, beforehand.
You know them best. From what you've said, I imagine even the world's best diplomat would be hard pressed to find words to improve the situation. But you're the one on the spot. It's your call.

10HailMarys · 09/09/2022 16:58

I love dogs and hate irresponsible dog owners, so this would annoy me too. But what do you actually think you'll achieve by saying anything? They're not going to say 'Oh yes, you're right, we've been very silly. We'll rehome the dogs' are they? They're just going to be offended because you've admonished them over something they clearly think is acceptable and which they won't think is any of your business. Say something if you don't mind having a massive row or a long-term fall-out with them and are prepared for others in the family to take their side, but otherwise, you do have to bite your tongue.

FooFighter99 · 09/09/2022 17:10

I know, you're all right

I'll keep my nose out and my mouth shut and just quietly fume

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