To have asked for the uniform back?

[LiveInSunshine]

Acquaintance was on a number of local Facebook groups asking for Brownies uniform. One of my daughters had a leftover uniform in good condition, and her younger sister doesn’t need it for over a year still. Acquaintance’s daughter only has 6 months in Brownies from when she starts until she’ll move up to guides.

I decided to let her have the uniform, It came to us as good condition hand me downs for free. Figured I could ask for it back once it was used, or I’d probably find another hand me down. Karma? Just thought I’d be nice, as it’s a lay out for only 6 months of use.

The following evening she was selling the jumper and shorts on Facebook, same size. No marks so hard to tell if the same one- but surprised me.

I messaged politely and said ‘I saw you selling Brownies jumpers on Facebook. If you don’t need it anymore for any reason could I have it back please? Xxx will use it’.

She went off on one, saying she’d got one elsewhere after all and I could have let her split the cost. Claims it was the other one she was selling, not mine (why not return it? Why acquire it after collecting mine ) I then found the uniform on my doorstep in a carrier back, almost like it had been hurled at the door, half out of the bag and slumped over.

She’s an affluent confident kind of person normally, big house etc. So I don’t think it was a money thing.

Would you have asked? I was annoyed, but I haven’t bitched or moaned or posted publicly over it, just that message above. Clearly the loose friendship is over!

It's not like she's selling them six months later! I think the fact it was noted immediately that she did not need the clothes means you can ask for them back.

I wouldn’t have asked for it back necessarily, maybe a ‘if you still have it but no worries if not’. I’d have found it elsewhere. If I’d said it was a loan then there’s a pressure her daughter must never lose it, stain it or put holes in it- which is impractical.

It was the fact it was the next evening. Not ages after, but the next evening. £10 too for the top. I mean pass it on, but the next day annoyed me. Not that I said. I think I was pretty polite. I’ll use it if she isn’t.

Oh sorry I completely missed that it was the next day!

I totally agree with you morally. It was so rude. Legally though she was entitled to do this but very cheeky

She's a CF

Did you get it back?!

This ^^

I'd be annoyed too
She took yours for free and then was selling either yours or a perfectly food brownie uniform herself at not even a cheap cost.

Glad you got it back. Lesson learnt with this CFer
Please take a tip, never give or loan any thing to someone that you may want or use again in near future . You'll always be shafted. As my dad says "never a lender nor borrower be" and he means only to people who aren't absolutely your closest family whom your trust implicitly (& even then in MNs we can see how that goes wrong)

You caught her out, being a little bit of a CF, and now she's embarrassed. But you got the uniform back, so I'd just forget about it now.

This

It's happened to me. Gifted an ikea table to a friend who'd just moved house. 6 months down the line she sold it for £50 on FB.

i might add, she has money, I don't!

Whenever this kind of thing happens I find it’s someone with money. This woman is a senior doctor married to a high earning husband, no money issues. I once referred to as embarrassing for asking for a small amount of money back from a well off woman on the school chat (£2.50, but for a large group so if everyone hadn’t paid like her it was a more significant amount I’d have been paying out).

@LiveInSunshine the reason it's someone with money is because they do that shit!