I work in a stressful, full time out the house job in the public sector. I have two kids, one who is not thriving at school and on the list for an ASD assessment. I am currently fighting with the school to get an EHCP for them and some additional support. She has very strong sensory reactions which can make every day life difficult, especially transitions and so finding after school and holiday club provision is not easy. Luckily I have amazing parents who are retired and help out lots but they're getting older.
We have a stressful situation with our neighbours which isn't going to get better and I feel anxious at home all the time. I cannot use my garden at all because of this.
We made the decision to move over the summer, when the lack of garden was really impacting on our quality of life. My 'D' P has been really shit about doing anything to help this, not really understanding how much there is to moving house and the costs etc. He has never bought a house before but doesn't want to learn or make any phone calls.
Then, I was offered a promotion. Good amount more but different location (further from home and school), new team, new job role. I'm very tempted as these jobs aren't common and we struggle with our incomes currently. I would take it straight away but as I'm currently so stressed, would this break me.
I feel something has to give as I can't carry on as I am now. A house move, new job, new childcare arrangements and possibly school for the children plus all the stress of my existing life (bills, house stuff, paperwork, social events, play dates, being there for friends and elderly relatives) I think I will have to choose between the house move and the promotion. What would you do?