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To need some encouragement about how hard it is to leave

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shoulderback · 08/09/2022 22:01

I graduated from university last year. I am in my early twenties and am currently living in my family home. Due to mental health issues I have been working part time in a retail job since graduating because I wasn't able to manage anything more strenuous for a while. My mental health has improved a bit (though is still reasonably fragile) but I know that living with my family is one of the major negative effects on it.

Therefore I need to leave as soon as I can. I was planning to move out to rent with some friends, but that option has fallen through so now I am considering buying myself as I have most of a deposit saved. But before I can move forward on that I need to find a job with a salary I can completely support myself with. I'm worried about whether I can manage a full time job with my mental health right now (I had to drop out of a programme I started previously) but equally I can't face staying at home because my mental health is suffering. I feel like I'm caught in a catch 22!

I have been applying for full time jobs so just need to keep going with that and hope that something works out soon. It is tempting to give up but I need out so will continue. Would appreciate any encouragement or advice anyone can offer!

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Starsinyoureyes13 · 08/09/2022 22:08

Can you not call one of those helplines for mental health? Someone will give you advice and get you access to a support group. You need support as you admit yourself you are fragile and its the first step to getting help is admitting you feel low.
Look online for support groups and call or contact mental health help lines

Try mind or the samaritans.
Please get help, you are important and you need to get better :) please don't do it alone

shoulderback · 08/09/2022 22:29

I do have support for the mental health side of things thank you, from my GP and therapy. I wouldn't have made the improvements I have done without that support.
Finding myself a decent paying job and somewhere to live are two things I need to organise myself though.

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Hakunamatata91 · 08/09/2022 22:31

You never know, working full time could help your mental health if its the right job. Personally I've found working to be really helpful as an alternative focus, but I am lucky to work somewhere that is supportive.

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