Might be miscarrying, need a handhold

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Sorry to post in aibu but I think this is a bit unusual and I'd love to hear some experiences so am posting here for traffic.

Two weeks ago yestersay I was 6w+5 pregnant according to my dates. The first day of my last period was 8th july and I am certain of this as it coincided with my birthday.

I was offered an early scan for other medical reasons. They said it was too early to see the baby so tried a transvaginal scan. They said they could see an egg sac but no "fetal pole". I thought the worst and they booked me in for another scan in two weeks- yesterday.

Yesterday I was 8w+5 and again they had to do a transvaginal. He found no baby, but said that there was the makings of a fetal pole. He said it might be just too early, but the nurse said it sounded like I would miscarry and booked me in for another scan next Friday.

I don't know what to think. It sounds very bad to me, though Google says it can take until o weeks to get going. But how can that be?

The confusion lies in that things were looking dormant in the first scan, but there has been some progress in the intervening two weeks. I've been unwell with kidney damage from an infection and have been on antibiotics which are meant to be safe for pregnancy, but I'm on the mend now.

I just don't know what to think. Has anyone out there had a slow to start pregnancy? It doesn't sound possible to me.tl

Thank you x

Just sending a hand hold OP ❤️ wishing you the best xx

Sending a hug OP
The doctor said it might be too early so you never know
I always try to hope for the best and prepare for the worst
I hope you're ok and have support and love around you
I've been there - waiting for a scan can be so awful
Hope you're ok 💓

I haven't had this experience, so I can only hold your hand.
It's a lonely place to be x
I am sorry you are going through this. With my pregnancies I had lots of bleeding, lots of scans and expected miscarriages that did not occur. I had my babies. I really hope you have the same result as me.

Hopefully someone with similar experience will be here. But until then - virtual hand holding.

I'm so sorry you're going through this horrible, worrying time, OP. I've had several pregnancies end in the early stages, but speculating about what's happening here is unlikely to be unhelpful as all circumstances were different. I know how agonizing the wait between scans is - sometimes it's better to know the facts even if it means facing the worst. Sending you a hug from a sympathetic stranger if you'd like one, and a reassurance that others do know what you are going through.

Thank you very much. I am expecting bad news. It's very hard to not know, though I'm grateful they're giving me another week. It just seems so odd that something has happened over the last two weeks but seems to have paused again. They did a urine test and it was still reading as pregnant, but I know that that doesn't really mean that the pregnancy is viable. ☹️

Hi OP.

When did you first get a positive pregnancy test?

I have no practical advice to give, but I am sending you lots of love and strength. Praying for a happy outcome.

The 12th August

This happened to me. I was barely 5.5wks when I thought I was 7.5wks based on my LMP. went back two weeks later and there was progress and then two weeks after that it looked more like a baby. She's 14 months now. I still don't understand why it was so delayed in the beginning but I guess your conception date and implantation date won't always match up like you think they do, neither will a LMP date. Giving you a HH, OP. Hope it goes well for you xx

If you ovulated later than expected and tested early then you may be less far along than you think.

I would try to prepare yourself for the worst though, and then it can only be what you expect, or unexpected good news.

I'm sorry, it's so hard.

I went for another scan on Friday.
Ladies, it was bad news. I have been ill recently and I had 3 courses of antibiotics whilst in the early weeks. That can't have helped.

I feel pretty crap but I thought you'd want an update.

Sending love and healing thoughts xx

Sending so much love. I’ve been in a similar position and know how much it hurts. Talk to your partner/friends and know that it will get easier with time, even though you’ll never forget this experience.

Sorry about your miscarriage 💐

I’m so sorry. I had a very similar experience at the end of July. Sending love.

Oh, I'm so sorry. Please take good care of yourself.