AIBU we don't need a busy weekend?

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After a fun summer, the kids are trying to settle into Juniors. DS 7 is night waking plus saying he has tummy ache. He's struggling to settle back off to sleep.

DH (who works all week) wants to take the kids out on Sat morning (lovely idea of course).

We already have a pre-booked activity with the kids 1pm -6pm Sat afternoon and they have sport this Sunday morning too. So that's most of the weekend out already. This morning, he'd arranged to help out a friend and their DC this Sat morning with our kids too then he asked me afterwards if this works for us.

I said I don't think they need any more activities this weekend (I do all pick-ups, drop-offs and after school care so know how they are after school etc). I want them to have some chill time at home this Sat morning after a new week at school and to catch up on some rest after all the broken night's sleep and tummy ache etc.

AIBU? It's happened before. He promises we'll all do stuff with other people then he asks me afterwards. Then we have to backtrack if it turns out it doesn't suit us and the kids or we can't fit it in. Now he says he'll have to go with his mate alone on Sat morning and I feel like I'm being OTT. Spending time at home with the kids when they need to relax is still spending time with them IMO.

Had DH signed you up to go as well?

If not, why do you not want him to take his children out. It doesn’t sound like that extreme of circumstances for them at the moment. Some nice time with their dad and friends

What do your kids want to do?

I'd ask the kids.

Personally I find the first two weekends after summer hols they are exhausted.

We are doing the afternoon activity as a family so they are spending time with him in the afternoon.

The morning could be nice too but with my Mum head on, I'm thinking a full day out would mean more tired and grumpy kids. I could be overthinking this as we are all sleep deprived!

Just send the kids off with DH while you stay at home?

I'd let the kids choose on Saturday morning. They'll know whether they want a duvet morning or a trip out with their dad.

Absolutely GoneWithTheWine1. Esp with 2 weeks of night waking on top for poor DS.

I think he should ask them how they feel on that morning but he would put friends first and honour what he'd promised them.

He has now just said he agrees with me but he'll have go and help his friend on his own.

I can tell they don't need to be dashing from one thing to the next all weekend.

I think the answer is to just ask them on the morning. He's definitely a forward planner rather than see how it blows!