AIBU?
Seeing someone new
ano124 · 08/09/2022 07:44
I spilt up with partner of 9 years at the start of this year and recently started seeing someone who I’ve known for years, he is the most kind and thoughtful person and we get on really well, my dad has recently caught wind of this and is going mental saying saying it way to soon I shouldn’t be doing this as I have a child?
I’m finally happy after years of being cheated on and lied to so I don’t see any issue?
is it to soon?
Am I being unreasonable?
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Trainham · 08/09/2022 07:49
No if you are happy don't worry about what your dad thinks. Maybe your dad is just worried for you and child if it goes pear shaped.but life is too short grab the happiness à nd enjoy .
Carrieonmywaywardsun · 08/09/2022 08:01
It's not too soon for you but obviously too soon for your child to know you're seeing this person.
WaveyHair · 08/09/2022 08:03
Your dad probably has your best interests at heart but life moves on and you have. Good for you. So no it is not too soon.
Just needs careful handling how your child fits in with this.
girlmom21 · 08/09/2022 08:13
Your dads just worried. It's not too soon to be seeing someone but you say he 'caught wind' of it. Was it intentionally being kept secret? It so, why?
ano124 · 08/09/2022 08:14
Carrieonmywaywardsun · 08/09/2022 08:01
It's not too soon for you but obviously too soon for your child to know you're seeing this person.
Yeah son won't be meeting him anytime soon
ano124 · 08/09/2022 08:15
girlmom21 · 08/09/2022 08:13
Your dads just worried. It's not too soon to be seeing someone but you say he 'caught wind' of it. Was it intentionally being kept secret? It so, why?
It's not a secret just not told parents as of yet, as wouldn't be doing that till I was certain about it
Ringmaster27 · 08/09/2022 08:21
All I will say is tread carefully. Your dad is understandably worried about his DD - part and parcel of being a parent that never goes away no matter how old you get. And if he’s seen you hurt in your previous relationship, I’d suggest he just doesn’t want to see that happen again.
But all that aside, if you’re happy, then there’s no such thing as too soon. Just keep your wits about you. You’ve known this person for years, so you know his character, and assuming you’d know about any serious skeletons in the closet? Enjoy it, have fun, but also don’t let yourself be blinded by your new found happiness.
I dived head first into something after my 8 year marriage ended. I was so sucked into my new happy little bubble, that I ignored a few red flags that arose because I didn’t want to shatter my happiness all over again. In the end, the break up with that guy was actually a billion times harder than the end of my marriage and it emotionally wrecked me.
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