My husband has worked abroad since before I met him, that’s been fine and suits both of us. I’ve had trouble since before we got married when he’s lied to me for no reason about females he’s worked with (his friends mentioned a name and it didn’t ring a bell), he lied to me about who he was working with a week before we got married and since then I’ve felt uncomfortable and snooped on his phone and seen messages between him and colleagues chatting about a co-workers ‘tits’.
He’s stated this behaviour was due to his ex’s jealousy but he’s recently gone to work and emptied his pockets at home which contained bar receipts for three of the days he said he was working - one of which was the day after our toddler got out of the hospital with breathing difficulties and I told him not to risk his job coming home.
I’ve been ready to end things everytime this has happened and he’s begged me not to. I have tried to make things work for the kids and also because my heads been mush. Tonight, he’s said he doesn’t care and wants to end things too and I’ve no idea how to respond because he’s refusing to discuss anything. I know I’ve been a moron but wtf am I meant to do with this after 13 years and him insisting I look after the kids?