Why can’t I just ‘be’?

[Mum233]

I am incapable of just ‘being’ at home. I always feel like I need to be out doing anything. I would literally do anything to not be at home. If I had my way I would take DC out every evening to avoid being at home. I just struggle to just be at home. I’ve always had this but it’s no problem when you don’t have kids. Now I have kids I obviously can’t always be taking them out but I really struggle just being at home.

Has anyone else felt like this? X

Not me, I love being at home, but my sister in law cannot just be somewhere for even 5 minutes and it drives me round the bend.

I have a friend like that. Always needing to be out.
She does it to distract herself from actually thinking about any serious things going on in her life.

I am exactly the same! I have a nice house but I just have to be out of the house. I have two children, aged 1 and 2. For me, I think it’s because I find it easier to be out of the house (although on reflection, it’s not is it, it’s so much harder) and then I don’t have to think about the mundane jobs (washing/cooking etc) x

Love being at home, can't wait to get in from work, get my pjs on and relax, but I'm lazy so that helps😁

Im the opposite. Why cant i just go out, go for a stroll, let the kids run off some steam, watch them ride their scooters or walk the dog. The second im out im checking how long until its time to go home. 😔

To me, that's not normal and is going to work out expensive (and impractical in Winter).
You need to identify what's going on in your mind that you can't settle - do you have problems that you dwell on at home? Is home somewhere where you look around and just see jobs that need doing?
Id look into why you can't relax - maybe talking to a counsellor might help get to the bottom of it. I don't think it's normal to be so restless that you can't stay home at all.

I know how you feel. If I'm at home I can never relax and just read or do a puzzle. I feel the endless need to attack the clutter and tidy. I can never relax because I always feel like something needs to be done.

My best friend used to be like that, but she went through a lot of trauma and I think it was because she didn't want to listen to the thoughts in her own head. After many years of therapy, she is learning to slow down a bit and appreciate 'just being'.
However, she is still very much a doer, and even in slow mode does more than most, so maybe some of it is just personality.

OP, it's only a problem if it's making you unhappy or causing stress.

I'm totally the opposite but I have a friend exactly like you. It must be exhausting - she fills every minute, literally never stops.

I'm exactly the same OP. I couldn't manage a day at home with my 2 children. Not because of them at all, it's all me. I find it so boring and I worry so much about them being bored and not stimulated.
Today after school we just stayed home as my eldest seemed a bit tired and run down and I feel like they must've just been so fed up and bored 🙈
Like I said, this is all on me. I just wish I wasn't like this!

I don't necessarily need to be out, but I always need to be doing something. Find it hard to relax.

I should be way skinnier than what I am

🤔

I go out every day unless I'm ill! At weekends we take dc out to park/play area, visit family. In week I'm working,walk dog, go to exercise classes. . I've always been they way.

It's good for kids to be bored. My 2 come up with some really imaginative games when I've told them to go away and play while I have some downtime and crochet 😄I'm not convinced my nieces have even played with any of their toys, they are only in their house to sleep.

Me. I can relax on my own here but when I'm with kids am always planning g where we can go. I'm not sure why. It's not a very nice house to play in I don't think- like the layout doesn't lend itself to just "being" here. My son doesn't like asking friends here either. It pains me