To be soooooo angry about snoring

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Hello! I’m very tired. DP snored like a fucking plane landing last night and I got about 2 hours sleep. I’m self-employed and have had to move work around today as I couldn’t concentrate on the technical work I’d planned to complete. So have literally lost money and will have to work on the weekend.

We also have tickets to go and see a performer tonight, which I booked and have been really looking forward to (missed start if tour last year as I was ill). I feel foggy and exhausted and look tired.

I had already asked him to get this sorted and he’s chosen not to. He doesn’t want to use anything to help, he won’t go to drs about the fucking sinus issue he goes on and on about.

He says earlier he would sort of asap so I was like - great, why not call the drs now. Yo which he replied he was too busy, lots of things to do (definitely not too busy to ring the drs or even that busy in General).

It’s fucking inconsiderate isn’t it?!?!

Of course it is inconsiderate.
I would retaliate for sure.

Kick up a fuss at night. Make him be wide awake when he snores.just bother the shit out of him because right now his snoring is YOUR problem. Make it his problem as well :)

Can he sleep in another room, if you record it has he heard himself .

One of you sleeps in a different room.
And no sexy time until he fuckin' sorts it out successfully.

He went and slept on sofa downstairs and I could still hear him with ear plugs in.

And it feels like the more times it happens the more tense I feel when I hear it and the more sensitive to the noise. Like when you need to get up early and you have to try not to psych yourself out.

But yeah, living room, ear plugs, can still hear him.

Yes, we’re on the same page marvellous!!

I could hear him from he sofa last night so I rang him to wake him up and make it stop. Not even sorry.

He’s got a choice, I haven’t 😭😭

Wake him up. Every. Single. Time. When he is as exhausted as you, he will take action.

Nose strips can work well - avail in any chemist. Failing that yep he needs to sleep elsewhere until he gets GP help

very selfish man! Stay strong OP

Mr ex used to snore like - well I can't even find the words. We quickly went to separate rooms (it was just about bearable in the beginning but he piled weight on and it became totally unbearable), but there had to be at least another room between us, all doors closed, and me with earplugs. If the sofa he slept on is directly under your bedroom, you will still hear him.

If he won't do anything about it then he might well end up sleeping in the kitchen or garage! And my ex actually did take measures - visited GP several times, had nasal operation, tried those breathing strips - but nothing made a scrap of difference.

Nose spray and strips. I threatened to move house because I had no sleep for a week because DH was snoring so bad.

In the end, I recorded him. And made him listen. He was appalled.

He got it sorted ASAP

1,000% this. I would be fucking livid if I were you.

White noise for you too to help disguise it. You can download tracks or use a fan etc. But yes it’s bloody selfish not to do what you can to prevent it.

My ex just slept on the sofa in the end.

He didn't seem to want to do anything about it. You can't force them. You just have to make sure it affects them as negatively as possible.

Sleeping downstairs/spare room
Too tired to go out with the
To tired to have sex etc

But good luck getting them to connect the dots 🙄

I had to get right to the point of ending the relationship. Still pissed off it took that.

If its not a proper sleep apnea snoring the NHS will just dismiss him. The ent doctor at our local hospital told me that they won't doing anything.
It's awful being a snorer..Hugely embarrassing , with the awful awareness you are wrecking the sleep of others, and the knowledge that there is nothing you can do about it. I absolutely hate it.

Separate rooms. My DH didn’t do anything about his snoring either.

That is incredibly selfish, I snore like a prize hog and I use a CPAP machine otherwise the neighbours would go mental with that coming through the walls.
He is also at very high risk of a heart attack, stroke, or diabetes snoring like that. Will he only do something after he has a permanent disability?

Does he know that he is likely to suffer from various health problems. An alarming list of them here
www.sleepfoundation.org/sleep-apnea/sleep-apnea-linked-heart-disease

Agree, this is the only way if he's being such a selfish prick.

I second the white noise suggestions. My DP is a snorer and I either use a bluetooth speaker or my Musicozi headband (has speakers in) and play rain noises all night. It's the only way I'm not constantly being woken.

Which or what sort of spray?
Sorry for, and solidarity with op -I had a nap mid afternoon bc I was scared to drive feeling so exhausted from last night's performance

My colleague snores and his wife bought him some tape that keeps his mouth closed - two or three vertical strips across his lips. He says they are life changers and he sleeps so much better. Snoring is generally caused by breathing through the mouth not the nose so it kind of makes sense to tape it up! Issue him with some micropore tape!

I'm the snorer, I can only sleep on my back, sleeping on my back makes me snore. We sleep on separate rooms and I bloody love it. So does he.

what I picture is probably quite different to how it actually is!

My dh is an abhorrent snorer too. The idea of taping his mouth shut every night has just made me laugh ̶A̶n̶d̶ ̶b̶r̶o̶u̶g̶h̶t̶ ̶m̶e̶ ̶s̶o̶ ̶m̶u̶c̶h̶ ̶j̶o̶y̶ so thank you @blobby10 . Off to Google..

I hear you OP. Much, much worse when he's put on weight, as now. He eventually went to the doc (his snoring is combined with sleep apnoea so actually dangerous) who gave him a questionnaire to fill in (!) and he said 'well apparently I don't have a problem'. I said how come there wasn't a questionnaire for the actual person affected by his off the scale snoring?!

Earplugs don't help - the vibrations go through the bed. It's also dramatically affected by drinking (no surprise) and wheat and sugar (more surprising but useful info).

We have no spare bed. I would poke him but because he is so fast asleep (with me lying awake, seething and working out how little sleep I might get, again) I was the one going to the sofa, which isn't exactly sustainable or fair. I got to the point recently of saying, quite seriously, 'you are now affecting my physical and mental health. I'm not functioning, because you are too selfish to take this seriously or attempt to solve the problem or lose weight. I cannot continue to live like this. Do something about it or you're going to have to leave.' It really was a marriage deal breaker, I was that desperately sleep deprived.

He's starting to buck his ideas up on exercise and diet and it's intermittently better, but he does need to go back to the doc too (but also 'too busy'). It's quite literally exhausting. Good luck.