I need help to leave him please

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I'm in an emotionally abusive relationship and I need to get out. I've only just realised this is what it is, with the help of Mumsnet.

I'm can't think straight as I've had very little sleep. Please can someone talk me through what I need to do first / next.

Get some money together if you can. I have just left someone very quickly after I found out something terrible. Didn't have time to plan so having to live with my parents until I can sort money. If you can wait I would really recommend getting some money together. Also document as much as you can. Emotional abuse is recognised you should be able to get help. Confide in someone you can trust for support.

Hi OP
First of all you have done a brave thing asking for help and recognising you are in an emotionally abusive relationship

I never lived with my abusive ex - I am not sure if you live with yours? But I would tell family members or friends even just one or two about what is going on. This is very hard to do but you need that support and especially if he is abusive, protection.

Some people choose to pack and leave, leaving a note or text and staying with a friend or family member or some decide to talk in person. If you do I recommend having someone you know on standby for you outside just in case.

If he is emotionally abusive you may find for the next while you will be getting harassed with texts or calls or him showing up which is why I always think it’s best to stay with someone you know and trust

Keep a diary to strengthen your resolve. If you are in a position to, try to start a running-away fund.

Practical qs:

Do you work? Do you have kids? Are you married? Could your parents take you in?