Overwhelmed and don't know where to turn.

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I found out a few weeks ago that my dad's condition is terminal. We're waiting for an appointment next week to find out how much time he has.

Then today, my mum has been told she needs treatment herself, without which she will suffer and deteriorate.

My grandma is also in hospital long term.

I've just returned to work fully after a phased return due to my own ill health and so I'm trying to catch up on 6 months of things I've missed. My husband works long hours to keep up with the mortgage and bills and I fit in the school run/ pick up from after school club and housework around my job.

I feel like I'm going to implode. How do I keep going?

Can you talk to your GP? You might want a referral for counselling. If things get really bad, in an emergency you can ring the Samaritans. From a practical point of view, write a list of things that need to be done versus things that can be left, and create a rota so and DH can do things on autopilot without having to worry about who does what. You might also like to think about getting a cleaner to help with some of the more mundane day-to-day activities.

I've not got any constructive advice, but I just wanted to send an un-Mumsnetty hug, because your situation sounds so hard.

Sorry to hear 💐
Do you have a support network or anyone you could reach out to?
Wiser ones that me will be along with more helpful advice x

Thank you everyone. I think depending on how much help my parents need, some extra help at home is a good idea. I don’t think I can take more time off work so soon.

So sorry OP that sounds tough. I’d definitely be delegating out things like cleaning if it’s feasible. And frankly just accepting that standard will slip for a bit as something has to give. How old are the kids? Could they do some chores? Mine do a few like emptying the dishwasher. Can any of the school parents help you out with pick ups/drop offs? For your Dad, there is a GP home visit called a Gold Standard Framework visit. It’s where end of life decisions are discussed and plans made. Part of it is introducing him to the district nursing team. If this hasn’t been done already, it would be worth asking for this visit so that your Dad can meet the nursing team and they can plan care/put in equipment. It’s good to be prepared.