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Well off children & children who attend private school spend alot less time on screens?

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Ewetoo · 04/09/2022 21:55

www.screenfreeparenting.com/rich-get-smart-poor-get-technology-new-digital-divide-school-choice/

Interesting article & I agree.. Well off parents can spend more time & money on enriching educational after school activities & sports. It's a no brainer... My wealthier friends are all off hiking, camping or biking with the kids who do a host of extracurriculars during the week & also happen to read loads.. My normal circles kids like my own love roblox & Minecraft & don't have the same after school activities & weekends spent chilling...

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RealBecca · 05/09/2022 09:26

@Ewetoo there is no secret. Think about your own behaviour since owning screens. My phone has wrecked my concentration. I used to read a couple of books a week and now it's barely a couple a year as I just can focus on them like i used to.

Even whem I'm waiting for an app to open i want to flip open a new window because I get impatient. My mind is always flipping from one thing to the next. waiting for an app to open is time I could be spending finding a birthday gift on amazon. And so on. The only time I'm not mentally occupied and have free thought time is at night or when I'm driving.

Accessible information sends my mind into overdrive. That's why I don't give my child interactive screens anyway.

user5587553798654345678 · 05/09/2022 09:31

@ArseInTheCoOpWindow one child? One daughter only? Not all children are able to access unlimited tech appropriately. Children with a sibling/many siblings don’t have as much undivided attention and some children become addicted to their screens in a way that is hard for parents of children who don’t to understand.

Ewetoo · 05/09/2022 09:32

@RealBecca that's such a good point... My concentration is rubbish too, I spend away too much time scrolling social media mindlessly & spend lots of time on mumsnet😩

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ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 05/09/2022 09:34

No 4 children. All mad gamers. All got degrees/MA’s/PhD’s. All got great jobs.

Dd was the baby

Endlesssummer2022 · 05/09/2022 09:44

As I work in tech I am a bit 🤔at PP who claim ALL tech CEOs don’t allow their kids to use tech. This is as unlikely as it is impossible to prove. I work alongside someone very very senior and both their kids have phones and are gaming. They also have lots of after school activities so there is a balance but to say they don’t have the same number of hours as an average U.K. kid online is a fallacy.

Parents say all kinds of stuff to the outside world….In any case if you’re working 16 hour days, it’s going to be the nanny looking after your kids anyway so maybe we should ask them whether the kids of tech CEOs ever use devices?

Ewetoo · 05/09/2022 10:14

I would think highly motivate, intelligent children more than likely want to do more sport & extracurricular if their parents can afford to send them. That equates to less screen time overall as homework needs to be covered.
Agree the working cl

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Ewetoo · 05/09/2022 10:18

Agree the working class play out more, definitely true in my area. Straight home from school & onto the road in their uniforms playing unsupervised on a busy street . My dc used to play out but we knocked it on the head as there was some low level bullying eg "you can't play in my front garden today", exclusion etc.. The negatives outweighed the benefits for my dc & affected their confidence. We had playdates in the house instead, much happier kids & safer too...

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KarmaComma · 05/09/2022 13:53

thegreenlight · 05/09/2022 07:26

this post makes me feel awful. My DS9 has autism and finds literally every thing other than gaming anxiety inducing. We have given up on limiting screen time. We have tried all sorts of activities - piano/sailing etc but he will have a meltdown that requires days to get over. We used to go out EVERY weekend to museums and national trust but now he just can’t cope with it. It makes me so sad but the screen is his safe place.

How great that tech has developed to a point where your son and others have a 'safe' world where he can learn, create and feel secure. There's no rigorous evidence to show that using computers is harmful or damaging, please don't feel bad about embracing something that makes your child feel safe and happy.

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 05/09/2022 20:52

would think highly motivate, intelligent children more than likely want to do more sport

My Dd just got 10 GCSE 7, 8, and 9’s. She hates sport. and has no desire to do it.

Ds has 2 MA’s. He also hates sports.

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