To start my new life tomorrow

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I need a massive reboot. I’ve been drinking far too much (almost every night for the past two months) and am feeling horrendously sluggish and miserable as a result. I don’t take any time to look after myself, so my legs are generally very hairy, I have horrible dry skin on my feet and just look crap in general. My career is non-existent - I gave it all up to have kids a few years ago and now desperately want to get back on the career ladder in a role where I could earn decent money. I don’t have many friends at all - and in fact my only local friend is planning to move away soon. To top it all off I have horrendous low self esteem and struggle with that on a daily basis. I did have some CBT, which helped, but I still find life hard to cope with. The house is a constant pigsty due to the kids - no sooner have I cleaned up than it’s a cesspit again. I’m so frazzled and at my wits end. I just long for “me time” and a quiet tidy house. Probably not possible I know but how do I cope in the meantime. Help!!!!

Hey I know exactly what your going through, I'm the same desperately trying to stop drinking, pm me if you need to talk or support, we all need it

Well done on deciding to do something. Small steps lead to big changes.....good luck!

Right missus, small steps. Here’s the plan.
Get yourself in the bath some time soon and shave your legs/underarms and have a soak. Moisturise all over & put on a bit of lippy. Clean clothes on & chuck out the bottles.

Clear as much space on the floors & surfaces & put vacuum around. Get some boxes to chuck kids toys into after they finish playing or before bed. Try to get the kids to help with that.

Look into attending an AA meeting. I believe you can meet with others on line in a group elsewhere, not even your home town, but you’d need to look into that.

Small steps every day. It might be hard but you can build on them and before you know it, you’ll be job hunting and moving forward. Good luck OP. You just need a gentle caring kick up the bottom from us MNetters to reach your goals. You can do it.

Can I join you.

I feel like everything is unravelling and my mental health is low.

My plan though, is to introduce one thing each day, or every couple of days.

So today I'm going to make sure I drink plenty of water, and wash and dry my hair. And go for a walk.

Tackle one thing at a time, start by concentrating on the drinking, try for non drinking days in the week allowing a few at the weekend. You will be surprised how little time it will take being off it to feel a little more energetic, can you get a bit of time to hog the bathroom on Friday night? If so plan a self maintenance session, face pack, de fuzz, bath or shower with your nicest products or if budget allows treat yourself to new stuff and look forward to it.

House… try to get the kids involved in a mass tidy then plan a quick blitz on the most visible areas that will help you relax a bit when they are done. Make a list of everything that needs doing and aim for one a-day to tick off. good luck.

Is this a zombie post from six months ago?