It's my birthday next week and me and DH are due to go out for a meal at a restaurant I've chosen.
We have arranged for our young (baby and toddler) DC to be away for the night with grandparents and I'm really looking forward to it.
My husband is now saying it would be nice to bring his older children, DSS (12) and DSD (10) because they don't often get to eat out and we don't often get to spend time with them without the little ones and they have just returned from a 2 week holiday with their grandparents last night so he hasn't seen them much recently although we will see them for one night before we go for this meal when it's our usual time so not like he won't see them at all before this meal. He wants to ask their mum if they can stay with us that night (not our usual night with them).
He doesn't understand my reluctance and thinks I'm being unreasonable not to want them there.
To be fair we do get free time, not ALL the time it's still pretty full on with the little ones but my parents are always happy to help so we can go out together or have a night off when we need one which is very fortunate.
However, I don't want my birthday meal being child focused. Different if they were meant to be with us that night I'd probably have not bothered arranging anything for the other two and we could have all gone out together and had a bit more of a child friendly meal out but was looking forward to a grown up meal in a nice restaurant and a bottle of wine or two!
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LittleMeal · 04/09/2022 20:56
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