My husband is a kind person and a great provider who loves his family but has absolutely no interest in socialising with anyone except me and our daughter.
Whenever I suggest we go out with other families our have people over he constantly finds excuses not to. On the rare occasions we do have people over he complains about it so much beforehand and is relentless about the house it being absolutely perfect but any pleasure I might of have from the event is gone.
We have no family near by and we never have anyone popping around for a cuppa so most weekends we just hang out at home in front of our various electronic devices.
He is more than happy for me to catch up with friends outside the home and for me to have hobbies but he just does not want to socialise ever.
We live in Australia and been through a couple of years of horrendous lockdowns and I’ve realised my husbands anti-socialisation and me not doing enough in response to it has resulted in my 7 year old daughter having rubbish social skills and few friends.
There are many play dates and parties in my daughter’s class which my daughter never gets invited to. My daughter was diagnosed with ADHD recently and she had a tough time last year before she was diagnosed with lots of meltdowns but she has been amazing on medication much better emotional regulation and participation in class. Her social life however is zip.
I have asked a couple of mums for play dates but have got ‘I missed your message let’s do it another time’ and then deafening silence. I take her to activities but that casual interaction you have when you have cousins and friends to hang out with she just does not have. This weekend I took her gymnastics class and grocery shopping with me and she spent the rest of the weekend on her iPad which is so bloody sad for a 7 year old but I am at a lost as to what to do.