To say bye or not?

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We’re moving home finally! We live in a part of London where people don’t really mix. Apart from odd hello and bye and taking parcels in we don’t really chat. I took telephone number of a similar family to us in terms of kids ages but the mum always made excuses to not meet up so I left it. I feel it’s a bit rude if we just go and don’t say bye to neighbours. DH disagrees and says we should just go and they probably figured out we’re going as we’ve had man n van numerous times to put things in storage.

i’ve sent a message to one of the neighbours opposite saying it’s been lovely and best wishes. She didn’t reply back! Was DH right? I’ve already bought chocolates to give to neighbours both sides next door and 2 opposite who we say hi to. Shall I give them or not as DH thinks I should? He thinks it will be slightly weird. I think it’s nice to leave on good terms.

It’s a lovely gesture, and I don’t think it’s weird, but it wouldn’t be expected I don’t think. Would probably be well-received, though.

Eat the chocolates in your new place. The neighbours will have noticed you're moving but they haven't bought you anything to say good luck have they?

They'll also probably keep the chocs wrapped so they can regift them so keep them for yourself!!

I’m with your DH - I would say goodbye is I saw them, but I wouldn’t buy them a parting gift when you aren’t even friends.

Good luck with your move!

Keep the chocs for your new neighbours to introduce yourselves.

I'm with your DH

If you bump into them you can mention you are moving. But no need for gifts etc.

kerp chocolates for you or new neighbours. But why chase the mum who never responds to you just to say goodbye? That’s odd. Give up.

Yup

If you don't speak to them enough to have already mentioned your move then I think saying goodbye with a gift is weird. Leaving without saying goodbye to people you are not close to is not the same as leaving on bad terms.

When we moved, anyone who we were on speaking terms with knew we were off as we had chatted about it in the days / weeks running up to the actual day (been the 31yrs).
On the day of the move I only saw one couple to say cheerio as most people were at work.
OH didn't even see them as she had moved out the day before and was already in the new house.
No parting gifts.

If you have contact details (phone, FB etc) for anyone you feel was a particular close neighbour then you can keep in touch but in my experience it doesn't happen much (out of sight, out of mind).

It’s fine to say goodbye and let neighbours know you’re moving. Communities are safer if people know who their neighbours are and are on speaking terms and keep an eye out for anything unusual.

But I wouldn’t give them chocolates particularly as you’re not friends with any of them. That might come across as odd and unnecessary.

How long have you lived there? It’s so sad, isn’t it, we’re more friendly with random people we pass on a country walk than we are with people we’ve lived next to for years. It’d be the same for us when we move :(

You could leave a box for the new occupants of the house you're leaving instead? Kind of like "Welcome to the neighbourhood. The neighbours to your left are Bill & Jane and they have a lovely dog. To your right are Pat & Mike and they have 2 children. Lovely neighbourhood. Hope you have a really wonderful time living here"

I’m with your DH. No chocolates, keep them for the new neighbours or the removal people.

You sound really nice. It isn't required by social etiquette norms, but if you'd like to and you don't mind not getting a response then it's simply a nice gesture, and that's a lovely thing in itself!

I'm in the same situation, moving date next week.
I'll just say goodbye to people if I see them, we're on friendly terms but not friends. I think this is normal for London
If your neighbour hasn't bothered to even tx you back then why would you give her chocolates.
Best wishes with your move, and I hope your new neighbours become good friends, you sound like you would be a nice person to live next to.
Just a thought but if you intend to be making improvements in your new property then perhaps save the chocolate to give to new neighbours as a sweetener comp for DIY noise.

Eyes forward. Chocs for new neighbours and a cheery wave for the old if you see them.

I feel really silly texting her to say bye now!

OP why are upi even bothering? Sounds like you guys aren't even acquaintances. It's weird that you would by chocolates and texts a goodbye. I'm with you DH. Don't do anymore it's embarrassing

You** not upi xx

That's really weird. I have moved a few times and wouldn't do that. None of our neighbours who have moved have ever said anything, unless I've seen them packing up and I've said good luck or something.

Eat the chocolates yourself.

I really wish I had not texted goodbye to the neighbour.

I seriously thought it would be rude to just leave without saying bye. We’ve done the move in very small steps so no one would have noticed. I just felt it would be strange for us if we just left and didn’t say anything.

previous neighbours it was obvious they were moving as a huge van came to pick up belongings but we’re not having that.

You're moving any most likely won't ever see them again. Unless you're very close you just move and that's it.

Sorry OP but I would think it really weird if a neighbour I barely knew brought me chocolates because they were moving. If you see them you could mention it, otherwise just go