Was with my ex for approx 5 years on and off, we do have a DD together who is now 7yo, he has contact EOW.
He was (still is) a complete narcissist, always name calling, everything is my fault, I'm this I'm that etc, spending our bill money on drugs, spending our DDs nursery fees on drugs, not showing to pick her up, cheating, physically, emotionally and mentally abusive, this list endless
The thing is with him he's a people pleaser, a charmer, the one everyone fancies, but behind closed doors was a vicious, nasty pr**k.
Anyway fast forward to now, we both have new partners, both happy. We agreed he pays me £50 PW child maintenance however he does this when he feels like doing, I am now on the 4th consecutive week with no payment.
He started a new job and had to do a week in hand (fair enough), the week after it was that he has to do 2 weeks in hand (bullsh*t), the week after was completely ignored, now this week it's the excuse of his online banking isn't working, he has no bank card so can't withdraw, can't send off for a new one, blah blah blah.
Normally I am quite understanding, but now I just feel like he is making a mug of me, I express all of this to my DP and it really annoys him, not that it's anything to do with him but it's the fact I'm letting him walk all over me which upsets him, he tells me to stand up for myself and take CSA route (he has a DD from previous relationship and never would dare miss a payment) but the truth is I'm scared!
Anytime i try and stand up for myself I receive so much backlash, name calling, threats, it takes me right back to the scared girl I was when we were together.
He's an OK dad - like I said contact EOW but he the time DD is texting me her and her dad and gf are still in bed and she's bored, or she doesn't want to go in the first place, she has disclosed to me in the past that he has smacked her previously, when confronted he said "yes if she is being cheeky/naughty I will give her a smack on the hand/bum.
Sorry for the rant, just don't know where to go from here xx