Regret deleting people from Facebook, feel bad
Googlethis · 03/09/2022 19:19
I have deleted 3 people in 2 years who I didn't plan on speaking to again and didn't really speak to much anyway.
One I deleted as he had been really fickle and messed me about with jobs twice (long story).
I never saw him in person anyway, we'd exchanged one or two friendly messages then it just moved to 'likes' on social media. I work in the same industry as him and basically he promised me a role then changed his mind the next day for no apparent reason.
Did the same thing again a few months later, asked me to work for him then suddenly the next day didn't need me, no explanation. I decided he wasn't worth my time and just removed him.
I noticed a couple of days later that he's blocked me...
One was a girl who only got in touch with me when she was single (literally, I didn't hear from her for 4 months, after she declined an invite to go out. Then one day she suddenly started messaging me and told me she was newly single, and then suddenly wanted to meet up all the time, how convenient.
Anyway I'd find that she just wasn't really that interested in the end and it kind of seemed like she was only messaging me as there was nobody else around (by her own admission).
After almost a year with no news, I deleted her and not heard a thing since.
It's stuff like this basically. Another one I deleted as I got tired of her constantly cancelling last minute and blowing hot and cold with me. I tried to get in touch with her a while later but she wasn't interested which I understand.
Looking back though, deleting was petty maybe? I know it's just Facebook, but the first man blocking me has made me feel bad. I should just unfollow. I'm probably overthinking this a lot?
Am I being unreasonable?AIBU
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Ihatethenewlook · 03/09/2022 19:20
You’re definitely over thinking it. Do you have friends outside Facebook?
Googlethis · 03/09/2022 19:21
I do yes, luckily. I just wondered if I overreacted in deleting them all and was maybe too harsh?
Mouk · 03/09/2022 19:22
They probably didnt even notice you unfriended them!
Don't overthink it.
Googlethis · 03/09/2022 19:22
It's just that I didn't really try to talk to them and resolve, just deleted them after a period of zero communication or when I'd had enough of fickle behaviour
Googlethis · 03/09/2022 19:23
The first guy did as he's blocked me, and one of the women did as I got in touch. It's a bit sad really I'm so bothered about Facebook in my 30s! It's meaningless
Bywayofanupdate · 03/09/2022 19:24
You are ovrethinking. I love a drunken friend clearance on FB
Googlethis · 03/09/2022 19:25
I just think the first man wasn't quite right in the head, why ask me to work for him then suddenly the next day (literally the next day) 'oh we don't need you' with zero explanation, apology etc. After I'd canceled other work to work for him.
SeeSeaC · 03/09/2022 19:26
I have deleted loads and I'm sure I've been deleted but who even notices ?
EatingWormsMichael · 03/09/2022 19:35
I suppose it is a bit hurtful to be deleted. But your reasons for deleting are totally justified.
I hate Facebook cos it's a minefield of problems like this. I stopped using it when I was feeling obliged to accept arsey colleagues as friends, and then feeling obliged to like posts I couldn't give a shit about. It became a ridiculous admin task every night!! I accept this all sounds pathetic, I'm just not built for social media.
Funkyslippers · 03/09/2022 19:37
You're overthinking it. Are you interested in what they might be posting on FB? If not there's no need for them to be your friend. You had reason to delete them.
I was upset over something on a works night out so I deleted myself from the group social chat. I thought, that will show them! Fast forward 6 weeks and I discover they've started talking about work stuff on there and when I said I didn't know anything about it as I wasn't on the group chat anymore, no fucker had even realised I'd gone 😳
Shiningstarr · 03/09/2022 19:39
I do it all the time. Some people have thousands of 'friends' on there, but I only keep my friends to people I actually know and like. I delete people all the time. I wouldn't feel bad.
Sarahcoggles · 03/09/2022 19:43
I just unfollow people who irritate me. Deleting them seems a bit petulant.
PrepayMeter · 03/09/2022 19:48
If it makes you feel better, I deleted my mother because I was sick of her sharing total shit all the time. Nothing offensive just lost dogs and inspirational shite.
wineandsunshine · 03/09/2022 20:41
Haha! I have an annual cull - it's very therapeutic (especially when people annoy me.....MIL) 🤣🤣🤣
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