Am I over thinking or could friend have fallen out with me?

[frostedlilachair]

So I messaged my friend two different dates for us to meet up. Then 2 weeks go by and she’s not responded.

I messaged today and just said that I was checking in.

She responded back within an hour and just said she’d been very busy but was on holiday now.

… I overthink things a lot but I just keep it in my mind. But she completely ignored anything to do with meeting up.

It's hard to know. Now that she's on holiday and the fact she let you know would tell me you will only know if she makes the next move.

I wouldn't make anymore contact unless she does.

She was probably busy in the run up to her holiday and didn't want to give headspace to arranging things for when she is back. You are overthinking it.

She’s not going on holiday. I didn’t word myself correctly. She’s just got a weeks holiday off work.

So has she responded to the meeting up?

Honestly all my friends would think I’ve called out with them if this is unreasonable behaviour.
I am so bad at responding to messages if I am busy when I’ve read them, sometimes it takes me weeks to get back to people, and sometimes it’s minutes, it just totally depends what I am doing.
try not to overthink it, don’t worry, we all just have stuff going on, and I am sure your friend has just been crazy busy.

She has responded so I think you’re over thinking. Cut her some slack.

Don’t bury it in another message, just ask whether she’s ok, and does she still wants to meet up.

She might have something going on. I become quite reclusive when I’m dealing with emotional stuff.

Fallen out, not called out

You messaged her with the dates it suited you to meet up and she didn't respond. If she's anything like me she was busy when the message arrived, was busy and meant to answer it later and forgot. So you messaged her again and she told you that she'd been busy.

Being on holiday from work doesn't mean much - she may have plans.

Is the art of conversation dead, or couldn't you pick up the phone and talk to her?

Maybe she just cant be bothered? 🤷‍♀️

If you are still up for meeting DF just message asking what would be a good day for her to meet you for lunch. If she doesn’t reply you’ll have your answer.

You reply with something like
"Ooh off on holiday, hope you are enjoying it. Do you want to catch up wednesday for a coffee?"

If she blows you off again, you know your answer.