Just that really
I am sick of the man bashing when woman I have known as ‘friends’ have treated me worse (and been more sneaky and back-handed about it).
I am sick of giving my all into relationships for them to walk away and sail into the sunset without giving me a second thought.
I am sick of finding out a friend who I invested time and support to has slandered me and been nowhere to be seen when I needed them. This has happened to me during School, University and in my post graduate career.
I was from a very disadvantaged background and reached the top of my game aged 32 - and the social backlash I recieved. Oh my god. You would have thought I shagged one of their husbands. When one of the girls I used to be in a group of friends with found out she refused to look up from her phone to even speak to me. This went on for a few weeks. They ask around to find out how I am doing but never ask me directly. On my birthday when I got my promotion one of them messaged saying ‘So partnership eh?’ Another one said just ‘Haha more money more problems’. All of these woman I have sat with them whilst they cried and providing nothing but support for.
I lived alone during the pandemic and parents stayed another city - at the beginning I tried to reach out but just gave up eventually - this and coupled with how they all treated me; I cut my losses and just ghosted them all. They were all coupled up and did even notice.
I bought a new flat and no one offered to help me move despite me asking; I done it myself with a removal guy - I found myself only last week messaging a friend asking if she needed help with her move and stopped myself. Why is it always me?
I live alone and no one bothers me
I opened up to my Mum about it during holidays last week and she started to cry about how poorly these friend and exes have treated me.
I just give up with people now. Whats the point? AIBU in my assessment? Do things get better or did COVID times and my promotion just make me see the reality of humanity in HD?
I am doing my bit to move on and make new friends - joining groups and due to all my alone time I did gym and now have the best body of my life. This has also resulted in a wealth of negativity and rumours - I am now ‘mental’ with ‘an eating disorder’. The only people I seem to be able to connect with are gay woman and gay men - they are the only ones who seem to tolerate me.
To think both sexes are a bit shit?
Isthistheworld · 03/09/2022 14:54
Just that really
Am I being unreasonable?
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Wouldloveanother · 03/09/2022 15:42
Do you do anything to help your friends? It all seems to be about expectations of them helping you? Have you helped them move house?
MbatataOwl · 03/09/2022 15:37
It sounds like you're really crap at choosing friends and lovers tbh.
Discovereads · 03/09/2022 15:52
it can be hard to find good friends. I think too many people are wrapped up in online life that they do not make the time for real human connection and friendships. I hope you can find better people to be friends with in future.
Thedungeondragon · 03/09/2022 15:49
I think humans in general can be a bit crap whether they are male or female. Hopefully you can now find some better friends.
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