Staying quiet around a sleeping baby

[Moofighter]

Hi everyone. Just wanted your thoughts. I have a big family and at one stage or another someone's younger baby/ toddler has been sleeping in another room. Is it unreasonable to ask the younger grand children ( all boys under 8) to be super quiet? Some of my family go over the top with this and although the grandchildren won't scream intentionally, they make some noise. They are just kids themselves and wouldn't shout at them to stay quiet. What do other's do or think?

There should be some understanding on both sides. I don't ask my own children to be silent when the baby is napping, it's totally unrealistic anyway! I wouldn't accept screaming/ shrieking/ shouting/ running/ banging in the house anyway- it's antisocial and I don't want to listen to it, not would I subject the neighbours to it.

However if the baby is ill/parents exhausted/stressed, obviously extra effort is needed to accommodate rest.

We had one set of family who insisted the entire world revolves around their DCs nap and eating schedule, both timing of activities, location, noise levels etc with no flexibility at all. Unfortunately we now spend little time with them as the lack of awareness of other people's needs and the expectation that we and our DC will be the only ones to be flexible is annoying and selfish!

My first baby I was so worried about waking up I used to panic when a guest flushed the toilet (next to his room). He ended up a light sleeper who didn’t nap well unless being walked in a buggy. I learned and his sisters all slept through the sound of their siblings playing and were much better sleepers.

At nursery if we have several babies sleeping we will get out quieter activities to play with for an hour or so but the babies quickly learn to sleep through more noise than I ever could. I think it’s different with your own baby because that nap time might be the only break you get all day from them.

Most children will sleep fine through noise. I've got builders in today and my one year old hasn't even stirred!

There have been lots of studies showing that smoke alarms for example are unlikely to wake sleeping children. The things that tend to wake them are sudden light in a dark room or someone calling their name.

Best piece of advice I had when pregnant was to run the vacuum after the baby is born to get them used to noise and sleep through everything. Worked a treat

Yes! It’s also handy to help them figure out day/night to have noisy, brighter naps and dark, quiet overnight sleep.

Oh heavens YABU

You need them used to noise an normal life! Mine would sleep through anything when younger, 9x10 I'm hoovring when their put to bed an it doesn't bother them, they sleep better with noise!! Xx