To stop children going to Ex

[FMLonceavain]

Name changed for this
so background is Ex has 2 DS every other weekend by court order, he was meant to collect at 6pm today and DS11 asked if it could be 7 as was his first day at secondary school and met friends on way home (went to different school) which Ex agreed to.
Ex then texts me asking to get them tomorrow as they only have 1 car at the moment (for context neither work so not going to work or anything) and have them 1 night- I replied I have plans tomorrow so needed to be tonight. I then offers to make the 25min drive each way and drop them off to make it easier. Ex then texts ‘thanks FML you have caused a massive argument with his GF and I am now not allowed my kids over to my house this week’.
I now don’t want them going there if an hour change makes her react like that and causes her to ban them from her house this weekend- to me it shows they are not wanted or welcomed by her. I have also look at youngest DS phone and the last 2 visits at midday ish he has been texting for toast as is so hungry and dad is not out of bed yet- DA is Aidan’s normally won’t eat toast so must of been starving.
AIBU to say take me to court as I am not letting them be subjected to this ?

are the 6 partners he’s had in 5 years his babysitter by any chance?

I also suspect he wants to go out Sat night & is blaming you, his gf and the universe in general that he ‘can’t have his DC’.

@Herejustforthisone unfortunately yes... direct experience of this, my son's step mum told him she hated him every time she saw him and told him that he 'looked at her funny'
The court works on what is in the 'best interest' of the child, which pretty much means that things have to be horrific before contact is withdrawn.
They also work on the premise that the other person is a 'good enough' parent. They don't have to be perfect, they don't have to meet the standards set by the other parent, they just have to be 'good enough'
Most commonly, he'd be sent on a short parenting course and OP would be ordered to resume contact.

Don’t stop the contact but apply to the court for amended child arrangements order. It sounds like he is not doing what he should to care for your boys, you filing for amendments might kick him into shape.