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AIBU?

Breakage

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stormingpasta · 02/09/2022 17:13

Hi,

Sorry for the long story. Please be gentle I am already feeling shoddy.

Basically I took my 3 girls two of which are young teens to my mothers house (she was on a day out) but have older aunts and uncles living there that my girls enjoy seeing.

During this visit my toddler tripped and broke a vase. I had two young family members witness this trip as well as myself as DD3 who's recently started walking was by my feet.
The other family members questioned how this had happened and me and young witnesses explained. (There's a lot of stirring in the family) I had also texted my mother along the lines of "Hi I'm ever so sorry but DD has broken your case during a fall and I will replace and order as soon as I get home" I decided to leave with the girls as I could read the room and felt a bit Unwanted. I then received a tirade of texts how "you was f'ing about" "I can't have anything nice" and "whatever" when I said look I am really sorry you can ask young witnesses who see the whole thing and I will replace as soon as I get home" basically accusing me of lying.

Later on I get a text saying I accept you apology. At that point I thought no I will ring and explain for myself how it happened and that she was right by me and not messing around. She apologised bluntly by the way she had responded. I explained the replacement had been ordered ect. She hasn't even asked how DD is and I did say by the way she's fine.

I have a little insight into the family dynamics. another family member I have contact with but the rest don't had mentioned a few times that I have always been the scapegoat and as a child would feel for me. I obviously don't know how to take this I had noticed indifferences but would never bring it up.

AIBU to be upset and want to distance myself? My mother has always took her bad days out on me and I have a few memories as a child of her screaming "you have wrecked my life" and mocking me and basically giving out back handed compliments as a Criticism. I feel I've done the right thing and got a replacement I really can't afford at the moment. It wasn't expensive or sentimental but I felt the apology and replacement was enough. I'm not overly sensitive and I'd say I'm happy go lucky but I feel really annoyed by this.

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kardomen · 02/09/2022 17:30

what an over reaction from your mother. You were perfectly reasonable in how you reacted. I think you should distance yourself. Far too much drama

stormingpasta · 02/09/2022 19:09

kardomen · 02/09/2022 17:30

what an over reaction from your mother. You were perfectly reasonable in how you reacted. I think you should distance yourself. Far too much drama

Thank you so much. I thought I was being a bit ridiculous and I do get a breakage is an annoyance but it was a genuine accident.

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