I'll try to keep this brief. I'm the black sheep of the family, left home at 18 have been self sufficient since. I have one younger brother who stayed home until he married (I think he was around 26 - in the years when it was much less common to stay at home for that length of time). He's their blue eyed boy, never did any wrong whereas I never did anything right.
I've never asked my parents for anything, they are not wealthy but comfortable, holiday every year, own their own home, not hard up.
My parents were never really involved or interested with either of us during our growing up years. No interest in schooling. Never encouraged to go onto further education. I went straight into work at 16, brother did a college course and then into a job.
I have no children but am happily married with own home and usual commitments. Neither of us are big earners but we get by. Brother earns a big salary, has a big mortgage and a spendy wife. He also has four children. They live beyond their means (brother tells me) and often ask parents for handouts.
The eldest of my nephews has just passed his GCSE's and he's done really well I'm really pleased for him as he's a lovely young man. My parents are much more involved with their grandchildren than they ever were with me (and brother to be fair). They mentioned they have a Uni fund for their grandchildren and have always been very generous with gifts for them over the years. They have also given brother and his wife a few thousand pounds to help with house renovations they were asked to help with. When each of the four children were born brother got a large cash gift. Obviously I never had kids so didn't get a bean.
I might sound really selfish but AIBU to be slightly resentful that brother and his family get way more from my parents than I ever have either when I was a child or since? I think I'm most resentful of the Uni fund - I feel I could have achieved much more in life if I'd been encouraged to go to Uni but it was simply never mentioned. I'm much too old now to go back to full time studies and I really couldn't afford it.
Be gentle, I don't want to sound horrible and grabby, I'm just a bit saddened by it all.