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AIBU?

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To be annoyed with this mum...

7 replies

BlackYellowBlue · 02/09/2022 15:13

My son is ten. Fairly quiet and has a steady small circle of friends One of his friends I've just recently been getting to know his mum. Over the school hols I arranged for them to go to a sport afternoon, picked them up after and the friend had dinner at our house I'd arranged to drop him back for 7. I'd asked for the address 3 times to no avail. At 7:15 I messaged saying. Leaving now if you can text the address. I did ask the friend who said he wasn't sure of his address...? She did send it then.

That's for background. The friends birthday was this week and there was an arrangement to eat out fast food. The mum messaged a few hours before to say it was too busy with parties on and could we arrange for next week. Fine with me. Just 3 one other boy going as well as my son.

Anyway, we were near where the original arrangement was at the original arranged time and yep there they were standing outside! We had a quick chat. She just said something like she was looking after the other boy today anyway and they wanted to eat here so she took them. She'd previously mentioned a specific dessert she'd be getting for the birthday treat and this is what they were standing earing. My son was with me. She just said look forward to seeing you next week!

AIBU to to be annoyed about this?

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FatCatSkinnyRat · 02/09/2022 15:19

Deffo a bit odd but she sounds just plain old disorganised TBH. I wouldn't take it personally and would wait to see what transpires next week.

BlackYellowBlue · 02/09/2022 15:22

@FatCatSkinnyRat It could be this, I don't know her well enough yet. I will report back if the next arrangement goes ahead.

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Fairylightsongs · 02/09/2022 15:23

Seems reasonable to me, a bit disorganised but last min plan. Do you think she’s not allowed to go there or something`?

BlackYellowBlue · 02/09/2022 15:26

@Fairylightsongs it just looked like what she'd arranged but minus my son so gutted for him when he saw they were there after it had been cancelled just before

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Unicorn2022 · 02/09/2022 15:47

BlackYellowBlue · 02/09/2022 15:26

@Fairylightsongs it just looked like what she'd arranged but minus my son so gutted for him when he saw they were there after it had been cancelled just before

Yes that's exactly what it sounds like to me too. It's like you're ok for childcare and play dates but excluded from any decent reciprocal gatherings.

BlackYellowBlue · 02/09/2022 17:37

@Unicorn2022 that's what my first thought is. Let's see what if the next arrangement takes place

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Kjpt140v · 14/12/2022 02:10

Don't drop her but don't arrange any special days or meets. Treat her as an acquaintance. The children are innocent and you cause problems by falling out.

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