To just wanna give up / feel like there’s no hope?

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I dunno if it’s just me but life just feels so weird and different these days.

I’m 25, I’ve just gone through breakup number 4, again with a guy I thought I’d spend the rest of my life with.
I have a job I love but I work with one other lady so there’s not much of a social scene sadly. I don’t have many other hobbies apart from the gym, and when I go out with friends, everyone is so much younger than me.

I just feel like I have no idea how to meet people, both new friends and men, plus I feel like men aren’t actually nice these days - everyone I meet is all about themselves. I try to throw myself into hobbies but don’t end up enjoying them, apart from solo ones!

And people don’t really approach each other in person anymore. I met my ex in a pub and I’m surprised at how many of my friends thought this was strange!

I just feel like I’m in a massive rut, I spend so much time alone and feel like I have no idea how to meet genuinely nice people. I’m living at home with my parents too as I can’t afford to move out.

Sorry I’m definitely rambling but I just feel so lost!

Hi,

I felt similar to you, although not in exactly the same situation. And then at 26 I met a man and very quickly settled down and by 30 had 2 kids and a house.
It's not perfect, but it's good. It's a life I couldn't see myself heading for.

Hope that gives you a bit of hope.

aww that’s so nice. I just feel like I’m alone 99% of the time and just have no idea how to meet anyone nice or make new friends lol

Have you tried to meet people at the gym? Could you try classes? People seem to get friendly through that.

It's so hard to strike up friendships.

I'm sure there's apps for meeting new people? I know it's seems odd but maybe worth a try.

Download the meetup app. It has loads of groups to choose from, anything from hiking to indie music etc. That would be a starting point for meeting people that have similar interests to you. Good luck.