To be hurt & upset?

[Kate0902900908]

Me and husband are extremely close, best friends we just click. We’ve been together close to 10 years married for 8.

A few days ago I found out I was pregnant. His 40th birthday is coming up and I thought I will tell him on his birthday as a surprise.

We have had 2 miscarriages and the problem has been found which will be corrected this time and hopefully will be a successful pregnancy 🤞

Yesterday our beloved cat got hit by a car and died instantly. To say we are devastated is an understatement. This cat was like an actual child to my husband spent all day of every day together. He has sobbed all day. It's been heartbreaking.

Clinic rings me and he walks into the room, I speak and don't let much slip but after coming off the phone thought I'm going to tell him. I sat him down and told him, he said ‘congratulations’ lets see how things go. . .

I said are you happy? And he said no I can't be I'm just too sad.

Later on, he told me ‘lets not talk about it for a few days I haven't got room in my head’

I am honestly so sad about our baby cat I loved her more than anything, she was so loving and I miss her so much but his reaction has left me feeling really deflated and alone. AIBU?

He is an amazing husband caring kind loyal couldn't be any better and he loved that cat like a child so I to understand he is upset.

It's very sad and awful bad timing. Give him a couple of days and he will be fine

It’s just the timing OP. I feel sad for you that you can’t just enjoy the excitement of being pregnant.

But I’ve also felt the way your DH feels and no news makes you feel any better.
I would just allow yourself to feel sad for both the loss of your poor little cat, 💐 and the loss of the joyous part of being newly pregnant, and just give DH time.

Horrible experience 😞

I echo other posters, he will be happy about the pregnancy in time. He’s still in the first shock stage and missing your cat.

I don't think YABU. I disagree with above posters. It was a cat. Now, while your announcement may not wipe out the sadness and replace it with instant joy, I'd expect more than a melodramatic, bleak "congratulations " from him. Id be a bit WFT? He's melodramatic. A cat is not a child. He may have been highly invested but its a pet.
I totally understand why you feel alone .

Ouch, poster above is stone cold.

Losing a beloved pet in an accident is just horrible. Let him be sad and grieve. He is in shock. You took a punt and got it wrong. You mean well but the timing was off - he will be so happy in a few days.