I was cooking dinner and DS kept trying to get into the cupboard to get cereal. I told him he could have cereal for supper, not dinner. DH walked through the door and we chatted for a bit. He could see DS was restless and clinging onto me so I asked him if he could take him outside for 10/15 minutes to play with his ball (until I finished cooking.) He said no because he needed the toilet. Fair enough. He went to the toilet and DS kept trying to pull his favourite cereal out the cupboard or asking me to come into the living room to play cars.
DH came back in and I asked him (again) if he could please take him outside for 10 minutes to throw a ball around as he was restless and I had food cooking on the hob. He said no. I asked why and he goes, “can’t be arsed” then sat on the sofa and watched his favourite Twitch streamers.
Started doing the dishes after dinner and he walked into the kitchen, put his hands down my trousers to grope my arse then walked back out. That pissed me off.
I told him I wanted to put DS to bed at 9 as he had a difficult night last night. Woke up at 3 am and didn’t go back to sleep until half 5. DS and I both woke up just before 9 so I didn’t want to put him to bed too early. DH argued that it’s ridiculous to put a 3-year-old to bed at 9 and he wanted DS to go to bed earlier as he has stuff he wanted to do. What he meant is that he’d have to wait until later to start his gaming as it disturbs DS when he’s trying to sleep.
I stayed quiet for ages and when he asked me what was wrong, I told him. Amazingly, he told me that I need to sort my moods out and basically stop finding reasons to be annoyed with him.
When you’re overtired having dealt with a hyperactive toddler all day (and night), and you’re scrubbing rice off the bottom of a pan … Why do men think shoving their hands down your trousers is a huge turn on?
YABU - he’s been at work all day and deserves to go home and chill.
YANBU - he could’ve taken him outside for ten minutes.
(Yes, I work too)