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Extremely emotional 14 year old son

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Upthebracket22 · 01/09/2022 19:51

Posting here for traffic really as I am so worried about 14 year old DS. He’s so emotional, cries about everything. Today it was because he went to football and thought that everyone thinks he’s the worst player and has been sobbing his heart out. He was crying yesterday all evening because he thinks he’s going to amount to nothing, doesn’t want to be average, doesn’t think anyone likes him at school. He was also worrying about existing friendships at school. Doesn’t feel like he fits in, says he hates himself too.

He has delayed puberty so is still very small & like a kid really. I have thought about taking him to the doctor but I don’t think he is depressed- I think he’s just really really emotional and doesn’t know how to handle it.

anyone got any thoughts- it’s breaking my heart! He’s so hard on himself and just thinks he’s rubbish at everything.

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Sunnyqueen · 01/09/2022 19:53

Oh god bless him 😢 have you checked his socials?

mycatisannoying · 01/09/2022 19:56

Och, the wee soul. It is such a difficult age for them.

AppaTheSixLeggedFlyingBison · 01/09/2022 19:58

It sounds like there might be some sort of bullying or mental health issues here. Give him a big hug, let him know how special he is, and look at some sort of GP appointment with the option to go in without you. He might find it easier to open up alone. Sending you lots of love

Nishky32 · 01/09/2022 19:58

Oh gosh that is tough. I think I would gently try and get to the root of it- is he being bullied, is he really struggling to make friends or is it his perception, was anything said at football or again is it his perception?

is he back at school next week and anxiety is setting in?

it’s so tough at the age- my son used to tell me to stop trying to ‘fix everything’

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Upthebracket22 · 01/09/2022 20:02

It’s definitely not bullying I don’t think as he would tell me if it was - he died still tell me most things & I have checked his social media too. He just seems to see everything really negatively

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MolliciousIntent · 01/09/2022 20:03

He sounds like he could benefit from therapy.

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Upthebracket22 · 01/09/2022 20:04

@MolliciousIntent i did think about CBT

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MolliciousIntent · 01/09/2022 20:05

Upthebracket22 · 01/09/2022 20:04

@MolliciousIntent i did think about CBT

I think that would be a really good call. I'd go private, if you can.

qualitychat · 01/09/2022 20:10

I have twins (and another boy). One of the twins in particular was terrible at that age. For example we were going on holiday - 4am and I'm trying to get him in the car and he is hiding under the bed crying. No delayed puberty but just couldn't cope with most things. Neither of my twins had many friends, they still don't. Turns out my son was gay, don't know if that has anything to do with it but he is still emotional, not so much crying but outbursts. He is a lot better and not so paranoid. I feel things will get better for you son but it's a horrible age. I feel the same and I'm 56!

Aquamarine1029 · 01/09/2022 20:13

I would be taking him to therapy immediately, before this spirals out of control. Your son needs help.

whenwillthemadnessend · 01/09/2022 20:17

Maybe his puberty is starting. You many not see it but his hormones are all over ether place and could show any day now. Before rushing into therapy try building his self esteem in other ways.

14 is usual for boys If he isnt a moody sod in six months then consider other options.

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Upthebracket22 · 01/09/2022 20:22

@whenwillthemadnessend he has got a few hairs sprouting under his arms so 🤞🏻🙏🏻 He’s so lovely but it’s truly awful seeing him so distressed

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whenwillthemadnessend · 01/09/2022 20:27

Sound slime it then. My son started at 14 and I was starting to get worried it would never happen. He did seem more anxious at the time but now he is a normal moody teen like any other.

Hormones are evil when they are not in sync.

whenwillthemadnessend · 01/09/2022 20:27

Sounds like it that should
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KitEKat0807 · 01/09/2022 21:19

I have a very similar worry with my DS, he’s 13 and gets himself massively distressed about anything and everything. We’ve both - DH and myself - spent hours of our time talking him through his meltdown of the day which can be anything from he feels terrible for all the times he’s been badly behaved and hurt his siblings or made us cross and/or upset, to worry that he’s going to be a bad person when he grows up or anxiety that there’s something wrong with him because he doesn’t feel empathy sometimes when he sees bad things happen to TV characters. He’s generally speaking a really kind, caring boy and it upsets us when he gets himself so worked up as nothing we say seems to make a difference. We don’t really know what to do either.

I’m sorry, not much use to you I know, but thought you might like to hear that you’re not alone.

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Upthebracket22 · 01/09/2022 23:00

@KitEKat0807 sending you solidarity- it’s bloody hard isn’t it? It makes me feel at a loss quite regularly

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