AIBU to send Dc to a party early?

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DD been invited to a party next week after school. I'd initially said that She could stay home alone and watch Netflix as I've got to take her brother to an appointment and she can't come too. So party solves her being home alone. Only issue is, I need to leave 15 mins before the party drop off at Friend's house. I'm tempted not to say anything and walk with her to the junction, then she goes to F's house and Ds and I walk up to the bus stop. DD will get there about 10 minutes early.

AIBU to just do this without speaking to F's mum?
DD doesn't want to have to lock up the house herself and walk the whole way there alone. So I'm stuck in mum says no.
It's only 10 minutes early but I admit it would annoy the hell out of me if a kid turned up early to a party I was organising.
And this is the mum who 5 years ago called me and asked if DD would like to play with F. When I said yes she said "great, I'll bring her round in 5 minutes!"

DD is 10

Just ask mum.

I agree that you need to speak to the other mum. I would not appreciate someone landing without warning, but wouldn't have an issue if I knew.

You need to speak to her.

Why would you post on here instead of just calling the mum and asking?
Or asking to drop off with another guest to arrive with them.

That's what I was thinking.

You do have to ask, just out of manners, but I can't see any problem with 10 minutes early. Unless the mum is like me and always running around last minute like a headless chicken!

Ask the Mum. If she says no, tell your DD to walk up and down the road for 10 mins.

Can you drop her at an child's house who's also invited?

Why doesn't she walk 5 mins further to the bus stop with you then walk back to kill the 10 minutes? Or have I understood wrong?

Why doesn't she walk 5 mins further to the bus stop with you then walk back to kill the 10 minutes?
I will cross the main junction with her and leave her on the side where she doesn't have to cross a road to get to F's house. Straight down the pavement out to a path to the house. If she came to the bus stop she has to cross a main road where there is no crossing and back over the main junction herself.
All other invited ones are at least 15 mins the other side of town and I need to get the bus with DS.

I live in Scotland and I've no idea what you're on about? Most people tend to be on time or the normal 5-10 minutes late you get everywhere.

Either ask the Mum or she can walk very slowly/ sit on a bench for 10 minutes / walk round the block a few times ..

I don't understand why you wouldn't just ask?! I strongly doubt she'll say no.

I wondered whether it was regional? We are central belt. I kept thinking it was just that particular family or parent being weird, but it kept happening, and now I’m used to arriving 5 minutes early at parties and seeing all the other guests already there.

Oops, that was a reply to @mistermagpie but I messed up the quote function on my phone !

Ask. If the answer is no, find a friend also going and seeing she can go with them.

I wouldn't ask and would just tell her to walk slowly but I am probably also unreasonable!

So the party is at say….4pm. DD will arrive at say 3.50pm? That’s not ‘early’, it’s fine. Early is arriving at 3.25pm. I’d be peering out my door watching for people from quarter to.