Neighbour not collecting parcels

[frillypots]

This is a situation that I always thought I understood the etiquette for but now my neighbour has left me wondering!

If you take in a parcel for a neighbour I always presumed said neighbours should call round and collect the parcel and say thanks etc

My neighbour repeatedly leaves the parcel and never comes for it, may even see me on my drive and ask if there's a parcel but still not come and collect it when I have confirmed there is.

The latest time we had the white large parcel for a week! I was refusing to take it over as I just think it's rude so it sat in hallway and in the end I got so annoyed I took it round.

Is this not the polite thing to do?! Not actually wait for someone to bring it to you?or AIBU?!

Does this happen to anyone else? I don't want to refuse to take them as they do take ours in but we always go and collect straight away!

It depends. My neighbours who I'm close with I'll pop it round if I notice they are in but they do the same. We have small children though. For anyone else nah, they can get it.

Maybe stop taking it in

Dont take.it round , you're setting yourself up
Personally I'd refuse to take it in from now on if this is normal behaviour
Just tell the delivery driver " no " . Thats.it

My neighbour repeatedly leaves the parcel and never comes for it

And yet you repeatedly take her parcels in? To quote Einstein 'insanity- doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results'
There's only one solution to this and I think you probably know that.

Refuse to take it in. I only take in my upstairs neighbours parcels which are then left on the stairs.

Don’t take it round, but more importantly, don’t take them in.

Pop a note through letterbox saying there’s a parcel and can they pick it up ASAP. When they call for it just say you’d appreciate further parcels being picked up soon after they arrive

Stop taking anything in for rude people.

It really is that simple.

I genuinely cannot understand the idea of hour home being used by other people for deliveries.

They clearly don't appreciate the favour you are doing them so stop it.

So simple to remedy this situation.🤷🏻‍♀️

Took one in for my neighbour and when I heard she was back from work I took it round as I didn't want her coming when I was preparing supper (or sitting down eating it). Yesterday reluctantly took one in for across the street but he came over (very good looking guy too - shame everyone in the street is all coupled up!) about an hour later and said 'I understand you were very kind to take in a parcel for me'. Sigh.

He is very rude if he knows you have the parcel, but doesn't collect it. Maybe sometimes he doesn't know though. Leave it outside on your drive if it's in your way and you don't want to take it to him. If he doesn't care about it, why should you?

Judy refuse to accept them

When they say "is there a parcel for me" why don't you say "yes, let me get it"? I don't understand.

I think different people have different etiquette for this. We take in a lot of parcels for our neighbours. One set is like 3 times a week. They are very slow to come round but I rarely take it to them. Another set is much less common but they always come over that evening to collect it. But on the rare occasions our parcels end up with neighbours (different sets) they drop it in to us the minute I get through the door after work, even though I would expect to go and pick it up.
So I don't think there's a "right" answer.

@girlmom21 they will ask as I'm getting in my car with the house already locked up etc

I would refuse to take their parcels in if they didn't bother collecting it time after time. There's nothing worse than a parcel taking up space in your hallway and making it look messy!

Just stop accepting them, problem solved

I think it depends, a few days ago I was hunting around trying to find where a delivery was which the app said had been 'handed to resident'. Neighbour turns up with it having been delivered to them and I had no idea they had it. If they definitely had a card through then that is different.

If you end up giving in and taking round there's no incentive for this cheeky person to ever collect from you. They know eventually you'll bring it round. Either stop accepting their parcels all together or don't give in and wait until they collect.

My neighbour is like this. They never answer the door to delivery people and we end up with their parcels. We've tried to take them over in the past but they never answer the door to us either, even when they are definitely in. Very odd. I mostly don't take their parcels in anymore, but sometimes I want to help the delivery people out and I take them in anyway. The stuff sits in my hallway for a few days and then I dump it on their drive. Not had complaints so far, but I really should stop taking their parcels in for good.

Round here, we all go and pick up parcels left with neighbours unless it's been delivered via Hermes. Hermes never leave a card or any notification so we all take those parcels to the neighbours as we don't know they've been delivered!

I must admit I told delivery driver I’m not taking deliveries for neighbour, as it was happening twice a week and some big items. My neighbour just assumed that as I was home during the day, I would take them. He did come round with chocolates and I told him I was happy taking small items, but not huge parcels that took up all my hallway.

I took a package in for a neighbour the other week that they didn't collect for around 10 days. Initially I think they were away but I saw that they had been back for at least 3 days without collecting it so I threw it over the fence (they have an electric gate so it's impossible to leave it anywhere else).

I once got into a habit of taking in parcels for a neighbour who never came to collect... I got fed up of it, and kept one... 4 months later, I opened it up. And lets just say... 10 years on, I am still the proud owner of a lovely cocktail making kit. ;)

you can opt out of taking your neighbour's parcels with Royal Mail: www.royalmail.com/personal/receiving-mail/delivery-to-neighbour-opt-out. They give you a sticker for your door. I also have a sign for delivery drivers. After a furniture deliver was left in front of my door and my neighbour was not happy I didn't take it over to them, and then complained about a misaddressed catalogue, I'd had enough.

In that case I'd start saying "yeah I'll pop it on your doorstep when I'm home" and leave it out whatever the weather. They'll soon stop being idiots!